If this is how you feel when you get married, how will it play out?

WOMEN OUT THERE: If on the day you get married, AND for the 1st 6 months afterwards you are NOT happy, regretting your choice to get married, will you be happy?





Lets say you still constantly think about an ex of yours, and even though hubby treats you well and loves YOU, you still have felt horrible the first 6 months of your marriage. You have been married one year and months 6-12 are better than the beggining, you are beginning to ';accept'; your marriage, but still very confused. What are the odds this marriage will work, or fail? You TRY to make it work, but still constantly question your choice. Will you just eventually fall in love with her husband and be happy or based on how this started it will fail? what do you think?If this is how you feel when you get married, how will it play out?
I think it's unfair to your spouse when you enter a marriage feeling this way. He should have the right to find someone that truly loves him with ALL her heart.If this is how you feel when you get married, how will it play out?
Even if he's a good man, you'll always long for more. You should buck up and tell him how you feel before you bring children into the marriage. Once you bring children into the marriage, your marriage will become even more difficult to bear.





And should you get a divorce, figure out why you married this man so you can fix whatever ';issues'; you have. You don't want to make a mistake like this twice.
This makes me sad. Why did you marry him? Did you think eventually you would just learn to love him? It's not right, or fair for him.


Your ex is and ex for a reason....no matter what the reason is. But for some reason if you still love him, you shouldn't have married another man. You owe it to your husband to get help and try to figure out why you are in the situation you are in.


To answer your question. No your husband will not ';grow'; on you, if you don't have feelings for him you need to tell him.
Please don't make babies! and leave this marriage. No it's not normal, you should be feeling like it's a honeymoon each day. The man you married deserves a genuine and honest relationship. Tell him you made a mistake and let him go on with his life.
Sweety, get out...if you have been feeling this way that long, your not happy, you may feel secure where you are , but get out, you have to make yourself happy b4 you can make someone else happy
Um, the day you get married should you should be nervous and excited, but also, it's the happiest day of your life!
I know how difficult it is when the couple is committed 100%...I can't even imagine how it can work if you are ';accepting'; the marriage.





Sounds like you are still in love with the ex...or the idea of the ex. You probably didn't have closure on the last relationship.





We could give you all kinds of advice about how to work it out, or how to leave, but only your heart truly knows if you are in it for the long haul.





I've been with my b/f for almost 20 months and I've known for the last 4 months that it is going NOWHERE! Just follow your intuition--it will never lead you wrong!