Problem is every time i think i'm making headway in the relationship...she shys away from me. We talk about it...and she says qoute...you not suposed to feel like this...your not surposed to like me so much. She calls me all the time...and we love to spend time with each other. sex hasn't happened yet..but i really don't care...i love her...and don't mind the waiting for romance..right now we just kiss.
She says she has never dated before..since she was with her past husband for 30 years. should i tell her to make a decision about me? or just be patient and wait it out? should i tell het it's ok to date others? i feel like a teenager here...to old for love games.I'M DATING A WIDOWER (should i tell her how much i love her?
I think it would be best just to take it day by day with her, you love to spend time with her so why not just enjoy it? Do not tell her to make a decision, or to date others......Enjoy the relationship at the stage that it is in, be patient and alow her the chance to really get to know you and feel comfortable with you.............it may just be that she has a hard time allowing herself the permission to be happy, to be loved, enjoyed, intimate....she may feel guilt about the fact that she can go on and live life...when her husband who loved her, spent his life with her can not, she may feel guilty about the fact that she still loves him......she may truly enjoy your company and have real feelings for you, but is afraid if she is to love you, and you her, that it means she can no longer love her late husband and the years that they devoted to one another. I would hope that you would be confident enough to allow her to talk about him, and share her memories about their life together....after all that is a huge part of what has made her the woman that you love. Make sure she knows that you dont want to replace him, or make her love him any less......you just want her to open up to you and find a little love in her heart for you as well.....so the two of you can make more special memories to ADD to all the amazing ones she already has.
Give the poor woman a break, its only been a little over a month...and like you said you have been around alot, its a womans right to ';play the love game'; and if she has never dated then she deserves to enjoy this stage, of calls and flowers and kisses and holding hands, and the feeling of making a man want you. Just smile and know that ';these times'; are a womans favorite.
Best of luck to the two of you!
No comments:
Post a Comment