Don't say it isn't love just because it's over the Internet, just look at eHarmony and Chemistry. And I know '; how do you know he is who he says he is?';, don't worry about that. Don't say it isn't love if I'm asking or doubting, it happens.
I've been with this guy over the Internet almost 2 years. We are kinda together now but we might actually be breaking up. My fault. I'm not crying cuz I don't know. We know just about everything about eachother. We planned our future together. Marriage doesn't really get me as hyper as before, or at all. When he texts me, most of the time, I hurry to text him back, might have been doing that for that past couple of days but still. I've been smiling, most of the time, when he texts even though we are going through this. 2 days ago, we were taking it slow and when he ';kissed'; me, I got kind of a scared/ worried feeling or I just didn't know what to do. I kissed him though cuz I didn't want to make him feel bad. I don't know why I felt they but earlier that day I was thinking of ';kissing'; but then I thought we were taking it slow. When he held me I was ok, I didn't feel worried or scared, I held him closer. I was sad so I asked him if I could lay with him, that's why he was holding me. I've been crying about this if i'm in love with him or not for a few days. I'm trying to figure this out still. I think I'm in love. I like the color red cuz that's his favorite color and I want things in red line a laptop, guitar, things like that. I cried when my sister was gonna take both my iTouch and my phone cuz that's how I talk to him. But she mentioned if I wanted to talk to him that bad, I'll use the computer out in the living room so I wasn't crying as much but still. I have his initials on the back of my phone and iTouch case. I have his picture as my screensaver on my phone, iTouch and computer. I talk to him everyday unless he falls asleep or has to work late. A couple days ago I was watching the sitcom Roseanne. When Roseanne said to her daughter who was getting married that she has to wear something blue something old etc. And you don't see your husband till the wedding cuz it's bad luck, I thought of him and that I should do that cuz of bad luck ((pretty sure of that)) I pretend to talk to him, basically talking to myself pretending he's here. I imagine things like us singing together and him singing Ashley by bullet for my valentine to me. He's handsome and sweet, caring, brave, strong (( Mentally and Physically )) smart, loving, gentle, romantic, fun, athletic. He is in love with me, he would do anything for me and I'm everything to him. The day he ';kissed'; me and I got that scared worried feeling was when we were taking it slow. I was happy. I told myself I was, not forcing or making myself believe it, but I was. I even framed this paper I wrote random things or things that relate to him like soccer, country, PERFECT!, jeans, Hawaii, Famous Stars and Straps, things like that. I think I do love him but I've asked people on here and on says yes, another will say no and then I'm just not reassured. Even though we are in this bad situation, I smile most of the time when he texts or sends me an IM. I have cried and I even cried alittle when I was reading what infatuation was. I didn't want it to be Infatuation. If it was I wouldn't be trying to figure this out. I wouldn't have cried those days. I wouldn't still be talking to him. If in was friends with benefit. I wouldn't have felt like I have felt. If it was lust or if I was using him, I wouldn't have felt like I have felt. I don't know anything anymore. He says that he thinks that I do love him. My mom says that too..when he said to give us another chance, one more shot, I could have said yes, but I just went on saying things. I was about to too. Then he said Im slipping away cuz I didn't know how I felt about him, which is true. I think I'm in love but things make me question.
1. How do I know if I'm in love?
2. Why did i feel like that when he ';kissed'; me?
3. When we were happy 2 days ago, does that kind of show that there might be hope?
4. When someone thinks their boyfriend or girlfriend is perfect, is that like a ';syntom'; of being in love?
5. what would a person do to make those around them just know that, that person is in love?
6. What kind of things does a person do when they are in love?
7. Do you think that if we took it slow that we could possibly work out?
Don't say if you have to ask, your not in love, I've heard that already. And don't say your young cuz people can fall in love when they are young. And don't say there will be other guys.
Please and thank you.
DTF%26lt;/3True love over the Internet..Kinda long and be serious and 10 points to the best answer and 2 just for answer?
1. you know you are in love when you just feel like you cant live with out that person. like every time you hear or chat to them in your case you get this tingly feeling inside.
2.you felt like that because you think you are in love. and most likely you are.
3. yes it does. it shows that you both want to be with each other but are having a hard time
accepting it
4. umm kinda. i never really believed it was i think it is just a inside feeling
5. a person would talk about that special person alot and often find themselves dreaming
about that person. to let others know is that you would always bring that special person up
in a convo with friends or parents.
6. that hang out, they talk all hours of the night, they do lovey things
7. yes because sometimes taking things slow is what relationships really need these days!
and it is very much so normal to think about marragie at a young age. i think it will help you when you get older personally.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Plz correct this essay.... “When a man acts like a child, it makes his wife act like his mother …?
“When a man acts like a child, it makes his wife act like his mother … and you can’t make love to your mother.”
I find it interesting to note what happened in the Garden of Eden after man had sinned. You see, each of the people there involved was punished in a given area.
· To Adam: The ground would be cursed, and he would die.
· To Eve: Pain in child birth and the husband would rule over her. (but it is practically opposite)
That God put this in place at this point in time says to me that this was not the case in the Garden. I think we gain a further insight into the Garden relationship by looking at how Eve got Adam to sin– something Adam knew he shouldn’t do. That’s why they say that women cry before marriage and men cry after marriage.
We could get into the fascinating discussion of why Adam ate, but the point was that Eve and Adam had an equal relationship– something that wouldn’t be possible with a sin nature. So, God did what needed to be done– He selected someone to be the leader of the couple, and did so by His divine will. That is a famous quotation which shows the evil nature of men “Heaven will be no heaven for men if they meet their wives there.
The problem is, sin likes to promote self. In the case of Eve and every woman after her, it is not in human nature to be pleased with having someone over us, and for “no apparent reason.” If you add up human nature and the current state of feminism you see that rather than being homes that are set up as God ordained in Genesis, we have homes that are set up the exact opposite, with women dominating their husbands or exacting concessions out of him for they very benefit of being in the wife’s presence or bed.
Since we know from the Word of God that women have a weakness for domination, are you as a wife on guard that you do not dominate your husband? This is something that requires a lot of work and attention for it’s easy to fall into the trap.
I would lump in here the propensity to equate your husband with one of the children– someone that you can order around and treat diminutively simply because you’re better at manipulation, emotions, or whatever it is that you know about him and how to push his buttons.Plz correct this essay.... “When a man acts like a child, it makes his wife act like his mother …?
Sorry I'm heading to bed and can't correct the whole paper, but a comment on style that might help; when you write an essay that contains a lot of opinions, avoid using ';I think, I believe, it is my opinion that';...etc You are writing it, so the reader knows it is your opinion.
An example would be your first sentence, ';I find it interesting to note that...';. An improved version of that sentence would be ';It is interesting to note that...';
Hope that helps a little
I find it interesting to note what happened in the Garden of Eden after man had sinned. You see, each of the people there involved was punished in a given area.
· To Adam: The ground would be cursed, and he would die.
· To Eve: Pain in child birth and the husband would rule over her. (but it is practically opposite)
That God put this in place at this point in time says to me that this was not the case in the Garden. I think we gain a further insight into the Garden relationship by looking at how Eve got Adam to sin– something Adam knew he shouldn’t do. That’s why they say that women cry before marriage and men cry after marriage.
We could get into the fascinating discussion of why Adam ate, but the point was that Eve and Adam had an equal relationship– something that wouldn’t be possible with a sin nature. So, God did what needed to be done– He selected someone to be the leader of the couple, and did so by His divine will. That is a famous quotation which shows the evil nature of men “Heaven will be no heaven for men if they meet their wives there.
The problem is, sin likes to promote self. In the case of Eve and every woman after her, it is not in human nature to be pleased with having someone over us, and for “no apparent reason.” If you add up human nature and the current state of feminism you see that rather than being homes that are set up as God ordained in Genesis, we have homes that are set up the exact opposite, with women dominating their husbands or exacting concessions out of him for they very benefit of being in the wife’s presence or bed.
Since we know from the Word of God that women have a weakness for domination, are you as a wife on guard that you do not dominate your husband? This is something that requires a lot of work and attention for it’s easy to fall into the trap.
I would lump in here the propensity to equate your husband with one of the children– someone that you can order around and treat diminutively simply because you’re better at manipulation, emotions, or whatever it is that you know about him and how to push his buttons.Plz correct this essay.... “When a man acts like a child, it makes his wife act like his mother …?
Sorry I'm heading to bed and can't correct the whole paper, but a comment on style that might help; when you write an essay that contains a lot of opinions, avoid using ';I think, I believe, it is my opinion that';...etc You are writing it, so the reader knows it is your opinion.
An example would be your first sentence, ';I find it interesting to note that...';. An improved version of that sentence would be ';It is interesting to note that...';
Hope that helps a little
My friend's husband is coming on to me - read emails?
Please could I have your opinion
Background. I have been friends with the couple since grade school/ primary school. They have been going out for about 5 years. I got the dream email 2 months ago and then just ignored it I replied it when I was going through my email yesterday.
The guy has since phoned me about 7 times between 10pm and midnight yesterday but I did not take the calls.
Here is the letter - I have obviously changed the names.
Date: May 2009 23:15:33 -0700
%26gt; Subject: this morning..,
%26gt; From:GUY@gmail.com
%26gt; To: JANE@hotmail.com
%26gt; DEAR JANE
%26gt; I had 3 dreams that You were in. The last one was beautiful and quite
%26gt; passionate. My ';self'; must be really missing You, or whatever it is
%26gt; You represent to it.
%26gt;
%26gt; Blessings and all the love I have always reserved for You.
%26gt;
%26gt;GUY
______________________________________…
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MONDAY 13TH JULY 09
Dear GUY
I should have spoken sooner but I did not.
Maybe I thought I had but obviously I was not clear.
Sometimes the way you talk and act makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Read this to yourself and tell me how it sounds
'; I had 3 dreams that You were in. The last one was beautiful and quite passionate. My ';self'; must be really missing You, or whatever it is You represent to it.';
Are you coming on to me?
If it was something in isolation maybe it could be ignored but there are SO MANY things with many interpretations that have come up that this must be addressed directly. I will not name any names but a few of SARAH's friends have said you make them feel uncomfortable and as if you are coming on to them. This may or may not be the case but this is the perception. To make it clear if you are making a pass or whatever I do not reciprocate and never will.
I will give you a few more examples of behaviour that I have found very disconcerting.
* When I was having problems in my marriage you came over to MY HOUSE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY unannounced. Yes, you said you were trying to offer moral support. But you knew, as I had told you that MY HUSBAND was very jealous and you know how a typical (X Nationality) man in general would react to a man visiting his wife.
No way saying you contributed to the relationships demise – just that sometimes you are not sensitive at all and do not think about the wider context. To be honest sometimes you can be very selfish.
*The one time you hugged me at the station by your mum's house you had a ******* wtf.
* When you knew I was sleeping over at SARAH's place and I had confirmed that you were not sleeping over you were there and did the whole dinner thing and footwashing etc. I do not feel comfortable sharing a bed with you and I thought the whole thing was very weird.
I have attached a picture for you. * I ATTACH A CHILDHOOD PHOTO OF US* Do you see us sitting next to each other? That is how I see you - someone who has always been special to me. You are a very gifted and talented person. I do not wish to be estranged. If you remember to treat me as you would a sister and that I am not comfortable being tactile with you that would be good.
I hope this falls on fertile ground.
JANE
2009/7/13 GUY
blood, why did You decide to write this 'reply' to me however many months after it was sent..? I suppose I don't really understand You either. I think I felt You to be a certain person, but over time, (and I think somewhat finally before I left,) I started to come to accept that probably I never really knew 'about' who You were/are. I feel I know You.., I feel at some point I may have had a glimpse.., but maybe I saw in You what I wanted or needed to see at the time. I suppose all Your 'sister' etc etc may be a reverse of this.., mutual romanticization.
In the times of this photo, I loved You.., You apparently, had other intentions/less clarity on that, and this manifested in when I decided to stop interacting with You after You 'denied' me in public. In that moment, as we so backtrack, it wasn't a 'too shy to dance' thing, (cos You went on to dance with a few other folk, especially my best friend BOB, whom You later 'came on to' in later life as well..,) it was that to quote You, ';I do not reciprocate and never will.'; In spite of what I felt we shared, in all the time and 'emotion' we shared - at least on my part - in private, via the phone etc. You were a girl 'I' loved.., and even if You will never understand it, this is why I have 'bothered' and exerted even when I didn't understand the girl You'd become, (or probably were all along.) You, ';do not reciprocate and never will..,'; recently I've come o understand that You probably did not understand what it was You were being offered/given, or how to share/give this back. I am selfish...
I am generally open and direct in my intentions, as far as the God's' allow me. You don't need to be in that 'private'/limbo staMy friend's husband is coming on to me - read emails?
What's your question?
My advice: cut off contact with him. This guy is way too thick headed to be reasoned with. For example, you make it crystal clear that you're not interested in him romantically, and then he uses the phrase, ';mutual romanticization.'; The word mutual means both of you. Since you are obviously not feeling romantic toward him, this guy is just about delusional. Delusional people don't give up, so your choices are either to decide to tolerate his inappropriate behavior, or cut him off. I recommend the latter.My friend's husband is coming on to me - read emails?
1 - this is way too long
2. got bored
3. Tell him to bugger of
4 - that is the end of the problem
accidentally forward them to his wife.
tell him you are not intrseted because you are freinds and no more en lass you are interested and why not start an affair
Just do him and get it over with, you know you want to.
Give him what he wants.
BC
He sounds like a ******* weird guy.
tell his wife!
a passionate dream only means one thing...he was coming on to you. you confronted him on this in your email and told him ';never.';
that hurt his feelings and now he is trying to provide damage control to save face.
when you see him, say hello and be polite. nothing more than that. don't discuss it with him any more. it is not necessary.
As a true friend you have a duty to first of all warn him that if he continues, you will tell his wife. If he continues tell his wife. He is manipulating you with words. Friendship or a fling???????? Friendship - to keep your friend. Or Fling to lose her.
well tell hem you are not in to him and that you are showing the emails to his wife and if i were you i would print them out and give them to her she might get mad but this is the right thang to do
Well, this seems to be bothering you, so you should definitely do something about it - although I would think not to this man directly.
How close is your friend?
I would consider telling her. The only difficulty there is that she may be quite unhappy with you for showing her this. You really just need to ask yourself what is more important to you, would you rather she knew what was going on and possibly didn't talk to you or would you rather ignoring his advances and staying in close contact with her, knowing that he may be unfaithful to her?
If I were you, I would keep ignoring him. That email you sent made him quite irritable and who knows what he would say/do if you upset him any further? If he does become too uncomfortable or is calling you incessantly or forcing himself upon you, make sure you tell somebody, maybe even the authorities - your safety is important!
Again, if it were me, I would ignore him and then if it keeps happening tell the friend. However, if he is doing it to a few friends, then maybe get a few friends to mention it to her - although not in a way that makes her feel as though she is being attacked by you all.
That's the best advice I can give. Good luck!
I agree with Jamand.
1 - this is way too long
2. got bored
3. Tell him to bugger of
4 - that is the end of the problem
5- Jamand forgot this one. TELL HIS WIFE.
This is really simple...he's a married man and he's off limits. Tell him to go away, stop texting you and sort himself out. If he doesn't love or feel attracted to his wife anymore, he should be discussing this with her and noone else. He's a selfish, pathetic man who has no respect for his wife at all. I doubt he would have any respect for you either if you gave in...
This is really a weird situation. Just stay away from him, ignore his passes, dont answer his calls, e-mail and try not to meet at the same place. Cold shoulder!antivirus downloads loan
Background. I have been friends with the couple since grade school/ primary school. They have been going out for about 5 years. I got the dream email 2 months ago and then just ignored it I replied it when I was going through my email yesterday.
The guy has since phoned me about 7 times between 10pm and midnight yesterday but I did not take the calls.
Here is the letter - I have obviously changed the names.
Date: May 2009 23:15:33 -0700
%26gt; Subject: this morning..,
%26gt; From:GUY@gmail.com
%26gt; To: JANE@hotmail.com
%26gt; DEAR JANE
%26gt; I had 3 dreams that You were in. The last one was beautiful and quite
%26gt; passionate. My ';self'; must be really missing You, or whatever it is
%26gt; You represent to it.
%26gt;
%26gt; Blessings and all the love I have always reserved for You.
%26gt;
%26gt;GUY
______________________________________…
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MONDAY 13TH JULY 09
Dear GUY
I should have spoken sooner but I did not.
Maybe I thought I had but obviously I was not clear.
Sometimes the way you talk and act makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Read this to yourself and tell me how it sounds
'; I had 3 dreams that You were in. The last one was beautiful and quite passionate. My ';self'; must be really missing You, or whatever it is You represent to it.';
Are you coming on to me?
If it was something in isolation maybe it could be ignored but there are SO MANY things with many interpretations that have come up that this must be addressed directly. I will not name any names but a few of SARAH's friends have said you make them feel uncomfortable and as if you are coming on to them. This may or may not be the case but this is the perception. To make it clear if you are making a pass or whatever I do not reciprocate and never will.
I will give you a few more examples of behaviour that I have found very disconcerting.
* When I was having problems in my marriage you came over to MY HOUSE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY unannounced. Yes, you said you were trying to offer moral support. But you knew, as I had told you that MY HUSBAND was very jealous and you know how a typical (X Nationality) man in general would react to a man visiting his wife.
No way saying you contributed to the relationships demise – just that sometimes you are not sensitive at all and do not think about the wider context. To be honest sometimes you can be very selfish.
*The one time you hugged me at the station by your mum's house you had a ******* wtf.
* When you knew I was sleeping over at SARAH's place and I had confirmed that you were not sleeping over you were there and did the whole dinner thing and footwashing etc. I do not feel comfortable sharing a bed with you and I thought the whole thing was very weird.
I have attached a picture for you. * I ATTACH A CHILDHOOD PHOTO OF US* Do you see us sitting next to each other? That is how I see you - someone who has always been special to me. You are a very gifted and talented person. I do not wish to be estranged. If you remember to treat me as you would a sister and that I am not comfortable being tactile with you that would be good.
I hope this falls on fertile ground.
JANE
2009/7/13 GUY
blood, why did You decide to write this 'reply' to me however many months after it was sent..? I suppose I don't really understand You either. I think I felt You to be a certain person, but over time, (and I think somewhat finally before I left,) I started to come to accept that probably I never really knew 'about' who You were/are. I feel I know You.., I feel at some point I may have had a glimpse.., but maybe I saw in You what I wanted or needed to see at the time. I suppose all Your 'sister' etc etc may be a reverse of this.., mutual romanticization.
In the times of this photo, I loved You.., You apparently, had other intentions/less clarity on that, and this manifested in when I decided to stop interacting with You after You 'denied' me in public. In that moment, as we so backtrack, it wasn't a 'too shy to dance' thing, (cos You went on to dance with a few other folk, especially my best friend BOB, whom You later 'came on to' in later life as well..,) it was that to quote You, ';I do not reciprocate and never will.'; In spite of what I felt we shared, in all the time and 'emotion' we shared - at least on my part - in private, via the phone etc. You were a girl 'I' loved.., and even if You will never understand it, this is why I have 'bothered' and exerted even when I didn't understand the girl You'd become, (or probably were all along.) You, ';do not reciprocate and never will..,'; recently I've come o understand that You probably did not understand what it was You were being offered/given, or how to share/give this back. I am selfish...
I am generally open and direct in my intentions, as far as the God's' allow me. You don't need to be in that 'private'/limbo staMy friend's husband is coming on to me - read emails?
What's your question?
My advice: cut off contact with him. This guy is way too thick headed to be reasoned with. For example, you make it crystal clear that you're not interested in him romantically, and then he uses the phrase, ';mutual romanticization.'; The word mutual means both of you. Since you are obviously not feeling romantic toward him, this guy is just about delusional. Delusional people don't give up, so your choices are either to decide to tolerate his inappropriate behavior, or cut him off. I recommend the latter.My friend's husband is coming on to me - read emails?
1 - this is way too long
2. got bored
3. Tell him to bugger of
4 - that is the end of the problem
accidentally forward them to his wife.
tell him you are not intrseted because you are freinds and no more en lass you are interested and why not start an affair
Just do him and get it over with, you know you want to.
Give him what he wants.
BC
He sounds like a ******* weird guy.
tell his wife!
a passionate dream only means one thing...he was coming on to you. you confronted him on this in your email and told him ';never.';
that hurt his feelings and now he is trying to provide damage control to save face.
when you see him, say hello and be polite. nothing more than that. don't discuss it with him any more. it is not necessary.
As a true friend you have a duty to first of all warn him that if he continues, you will tell his wife. If he continues tell his wife. He is manipulating you with words. Friendship or a fling???????? Friendship - to keep your friend. Or Fling to lose her.
well tell hem you are not in to him and that you are showing the emails to his wife and if i were you i would print them out and give them to her she might get mad but this is the right thang to do
Well, this seems to be bothering you, so you should definitely do something about it - although I would think not to this man directly.
How close is your friend?
I would consider telling her. The only difficulty there is that she may be quite unhappy with you for showing her this. You really just need to ask yourself what is more important to you, would you rather she knew what was going on and possibly didn't talk to you or would you rather ignoring his advances and staying in close contact with her, knowing that he may be unfaithful to her?
If I were you, I would keep ignoring him. That email you sent made him quite irritable and who knows what he would say/do if you upset him any further? If he does become too uncomfortable or is calling you incessantly or forcing himself upon you, make sure you tell somebody, maybe even the authorities - your safety is important!
Again, if it were me, I would ignore him and then if it keeps happening tell the friend. However, if he is doing it to a few friends, then maybe get a few friends to mention it to her - although not in a way that makes her feel as though she is being attacked by you all.
That's the best advice I can give. Good luck!
I agree with Jamand.
1 - this is way too long
2. got bored
3. Tell him to bugger of
4 - that is the end of the problem
5- Jamand forgot this one. TELL HIS WIFE.
This is really simple...he's a married man and he's off limits. Tell him to go away, stop texting you and sort himself out. If he doesn't love or feel attracted to his wife anymore, he should be discussing this with her and noone else. He's a selfish, pathetic man who has no respect for his wife at all. I doubt he would have any respect for you either if you gave in...
This is really a weird situation. Just stay away from him, ignore his passes, dont answer his calls, e-mail and try not to meet at the same place. Cold shoulder!
How do i make part of my romantic novel like a dream?
ok this is what i have so far in my romantic novel and now i'm stuck. and i'm 14, a freshman in high school so cut me some slack. thanks
';But why?!'; I yelled.
';Because his family is wealthy like us and he has a promising future and he will be a good husband. And I said so and I’m your father!'; And with that last word he left my room.
';Ugh!'; I screamed. It’s not fair! Why do I have to marry Daniel! I'm only seventeen! Not even an adult. Then there was a soft tap at the door.
';If you're dad, go away!'; I said into my pillow. ';I guess you heard the news.'; Anna, my older, step sister, said. I didn't answer. I just kept my crying, mad face in my pillow. Since I didn't answer she continued, ';Well if it makes you feel any better I’m betrothed too.'; And it did make me feel better because I knew who she was betrothed too.
';Kyle?'; I muffled. She didn't answer so I figured I was right.
';Anna? Are you still here?';
I finally stopped my crying enough to look to see if Anna was there, and she was. She had her hands over her face and silent tears were falling.
';I can't believe he's making us do this! Especially me and Kyle! Kyle's so rude, and disgusting, and old!'; Anna was really crying now. I felt bad because Kyle is like ten years older than Anna and Daniel is one year older than me and Daniel's richer and cuter than Kyle.
';I know! Let’s run away!';
';Clora, where would we go? I like my life.';
';We can go anywhere, everywhere!';
';Sorry Clora, but I don't want to leave.';
';Well I am leaving!'; And I really was. I wasn't going to marry someone I don't love. And that was all I needed to know.
This is the first chapter:
As soon as I started packing my bags, I realized I didn't know where I was going. All I knew was that I was leaving and not coming back because if I did I was going to marry someone I didn't love. Then I started thinking of people I can live with, where my dad can't find me.
';Elizabeth!'; I shouted. Yes! That’s a perfect place to go because she's my real, dead mother's sister.
When I was finally packed and ready to leave, it was pitch black, but I didn’t care. I was leaving right now. I got into my brand new, yellow camaro (I got it because I LOVE transformers), and headed toward Elizabeth’s house.
After about going a hundred miles, my eyes started drooping. From my peripheral vision I saw a white blur, but I just ignored it. When I turned back to the road, a deer was stopped in the middle of the road, staring at my car. Before I hit it, I swerved the car off the road. When I thought I was safe I realized I was headed toward the cliff, but it was too late. I couldn’t turn around. I was stuck. I was going to fly off the cliff with my car and die. With no hope left, I closed my eyes and wished that somehow everything would be all right. I felt the car slowly leaning forward and then it jerked to a stop. I slammed into the back of my seat. And then I saw him. He was tall, handsome, muscular, and mysterious all at the same time. He was holding onto my car with an amazing grip, and then he pushed it on solid ground and disappeared with amazing speed. Oh my gosh! I thought. “I’m dreaming.” I whispered. I slapped my face a couple times to see if I was dreaming, but I wasn’t. And for some odd reason, I was glad. Since I was kind of in shock, I didn’t know what to do besides sit.
When I woke up I was in my car, the battery was dead and I was out of gas. I grabbed my stuff and decided to call Elizabeth to come and get me from here. I dialed her number and put the phone to my ear.
“Crap! No cell reception.” I said throwing it on the ground.”Well I guess I could walk, since it’s not that far away.” I thought.
I walked for what seemed like forever, and then I saw a small mart. I decided to start jogging so I could get there and get to a phone. When I got to the mart, I went to the check-out counter and asked a large man with a long red beard and a bald head to use his phone. I called Elizabeth and I told her everything and I started crying and then I asked her if she could pick me up and let me stay with her. And she immediately said yes.
It was a short, silent ride to Elizabeth’s house.
”You get the blue room.” Elizabeth said, gesturing up the stairs at the second door on the left.
”I’ll fix you something to eat. What do you want?”
“I’ll take a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, thank you.”
After I ate I decided to take a shower. I went to the blue room to get my pajamas and toiletries.
“Hey Elizabeth.”
“Yeah?”
“Is it ok if I take a shower?”
“Of course you can sweetheart.”
“Ok, um… which door do I use?”
“The first one on the right.”
“Thanks.”
“Oh yeah! There’s…”
I wasn’t paying attention. I just wanted to be clean, and I wanted this horrible and a little wonderful day over. I walked through the door and stopped, because there was a half naked, totally ripped, beautiful, and a little familiar, guy in the bathroom.
“Um……” I said, quickly covering my eyes.
“It’s ok.” He said smiling.” I waHow do i make part of my romantic novel like a dream?
';I just kept my crying, mad face in my pillow'; that part doesn't make sense. revise please.
when you introduce the idea of running away its too blunt. Ease into it, by saying something like, i wish this wasn't happening, that we could just run away from this.. yaddayaddayadda... ';you know we could.. we could run away'; blablablaaa...
';Since I was kind of in shock, I didn’t know what to do besides sit.'; KINDA?!
You seem to have an opposite sentence variety thing going on. While usually writers have mostly long sentences and once in a while have short ones to bring emphasis to whats happening, you have a LOT of short sentences, and because of that, it doesn't flow as evenly as it should. When you have that many short sentences in a row its kind of off-putting. It's an ok plot and all, but you need to work on your sentence structure because you might loose your audience if you keep this up, no matter how good the story it. After you're done writing a couple sentences, go over it again and read it out loud to yourself, that should help you see the places that can come across as awkward.
Those were just some suggestions that really stuck out to me, I know you are a younger writer, and you say ';give me some slack'; but if you want to be taken seriously at all you need to be always getting better and stuff : )
I'm NOT putting your ideas down at all, because I believe that you can become a great writer, but we all have to learn the traits and how to do all this ';stuff';. If you want any more help, feel free to email me, I'm always open to help a fellow writer : )How do i make part of my romantic novel like a dream?
I love It so much.......... Do these character charts to help though http://www.eclectics.com/articles/charac…
oh and the rest of my story is posted on this webpage
libbiaswritings.web.com
Describe each scene change as a blur of colors. Make it very symbolic... It needs to have elements of what happens in her life mixed in.
';But why?!'; I yelled.
';Because his family is wealthy like us and he has a promising future and he will be a good husband. And I said so and I’m your father!'; And with that last word he left my room.
';Ugh!'; I screamed. It’s not fair! Why do I have to marry Daniel! I'm only seventeen! Not even an adult. Then there was a soft tap at the door.
';If you're dad, go away!'; I said into my pillow. ';I guess you heard the news.'; Anna, my older, step sister, said. I didn't answer. I just kept my crying, mad face in my pillow. Since I didn't answer she continued, ';Well if it makes you feel any better I’m betrothed too.'; And it did make me feel better because I knew who she was betrothed too.
';Kyle?'; I muffled. She didn't answer so I figured I was right.
';Anna? Are you still here?';
I finally stopped my crying enough to look to see if Anna was there, and she was. She had her hands over her face and silent tears were falling.
';I can't believe he's making us do this! Especially me and Kyle! Kyle's so rude, and disgusting, and old!'; Anna was really crying now. I felt bad because Kyle is like ten years older than Anna and Daniel is one year older than me and Daniel's richer and cuter than Kyle.
';I know! Let’s run away!';
';Clora, where would we go? I like my life.';
';We can go anywhere, everywhere!';
';Sorry Clora, but I don't want to leave.';
';Well I am leaving!'; And I really was. I wasn't going to marry someone I don't love. And that was all I needed to know.
This is the first chapter:
As soon as I started packing my bags, I realized I didn't know where I was going. All I knew was that I was leaving and not coming back because if I did I was going to marry someone I didn't love. Then I started thinking of people I can live with, where my dad can't find me.
';Elizabeth!'; I shouted. Yes! That’s a perfect place to go because she's my real, dead mother's sister.
When I was finally packed and ready to leave, it was pitch black, but I didn’t care. I was leaving right now. I got into my brand new, yellow camaro (I got it because I LOVE transformers), and headed toward Elizabeth’s house.
After about going a hundred miles, my eyes started drooping. From my peripheral vision I saw a white blur, but I just ignored it. When I turned back to the road, a deer was stopped in the middle of the road, staring at my car. Before I hit it, I swerved the car off the road. When I thought I was safe I realized I was headed toward the cliff, but it was too late. I couldn’t turn around. I was stuck. I was going to fly off the cliff with my car and die. With no hope left, I closed my eyes and wished that somehow everything would be all right. I felt the car slowly leaning forward and then it jerked to a stop. I slammed into the back of my seat. And then I saw him. He was tall, handsome, muscular, and mysterious all at the same time. He was holding onto my car with an amazing grip, and then he pushed it on solid ground and disappeared with amazing speed. Oh my gosh! I thought. “I’m dreaming.” I whispered. I slapped my face a couple times to see if I was dreaming, but I wasn’t. And for some odd reason, I was glad. Since I was kind of in shock, I didn’t know what to do besides sit.
When I woke up I was in my car, the battery was dead and I was out of gas. I grabbed my stuff and decided to call Elizabeth to come and get me from here. I dialed her number and put the phone to my ear.
“Crap! No cell reception.” I said throwing it on the ground.”Well I guess I could walk, since it’s not that far away.” I thought.
I walked for what seemed like forever, and then I saw a small mart. I decided to start jogging so I could get there and get to a phone. When I got to the mart, I went to the check-out counter and asked a large man with a long red beard and a bald head to use his phone. I called Elizabeth and I told her everything and I started crying and then I asked her if she could pick me up and let me stay with her. And she immediately said yes.
It was a short, silent ride to Elizabeth’s house.
”You get the blue room.” Elizabeth said, gesturing up the stairs at the second door on the left.
”I’ll fix you something to eat. What do you want?”
“I’ll take a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, thank you.”
After I ate I decided to take a shower. I went to the blue room to get my pajamas and toiletries.
“Hey Elizabeth.”
“Yeah?”
“Is it ok if I take a shower?”
“Of course you can sweetheart.”
“Ok, um… which door do I use?”
“The first one on the right.”
“Thanks.”
“Oh yeah! There’s…”
I wasn’t paying attention. I just wanted to be clean, and I wanted this horrible and a little wonderful day over. I walked through the door and stopped, because there was a half naked, totally ripped, beautiful, and a little familiar, guy in the bathroom.
“Um……” I said, quickly covering my eyes.
“It’s ok.” He said smiling.” I waHow do i make part of my romantic novel like a dream?
';I just kept my crying, mad face in my pillow'; that part doesn't make sense. revise please.
when you introduce the idea of running away its too blunt. Ease into it, by saying something like, i wish this wasn't happening, that we could just run away from this.. yaddayaddayadda... ';you know we could.. we could run away'; blablablaaa...
';Since I was kind of in shock, I didn’t know what to do besides sit.'; KINDA?!
You seem to have an opposite sentence variety thing going on. While usually writers have mostly long sentences and once in a while have short ones to bring emphasis to whats happening, you have a LOT of short sentences, and because of that, it doesn't flow as evenly as it should. When you have that many short sentences in a row its kind of off-putting. It's an ok plot and all, but you need to work on your sentence structure because you might loose your audience if you keep this up, no matter how good the story it. After you're done writing a couple sentences, go over it again and read it out loud to yourself, that should help you see the places that can come across as awkward.
Those were just some suggestions that really stuck out to me, I know you are a younger writer, and you say ';give me some slack'; but if you want to be taken seriously at all you need to be always getting better and stuff : )
I'm NOT putting your ideas down at all, because I believe that you can become a great writer, but we all have to learn the traits and how to do all this ';stuff';. If you want any more help, feel free to email me, I'm always open to help a fellow writer : )How do i make part of my romantic novel like a dream?
I love It so much.......... Do these character charts to help though http://www.eclectics.com/articles/charac…
oh and the rest of my story is posted on this webpage
libbiaswritings.web.com
Describe each scene change as a blur of colors. Make it very symbolic... It needs to have elements of what happens in her life mixed in.
FOR MEN ONLY: married or not,pls answer?
What will make you fall inlove with your partner/spouse even more? What sort of qualities should she have that will make you not let go of her and think ';shes for keeps';? In other words, what must she do/have? Thanks in advance and Im willing to give 10 points for the best answer.
I wanna show my husband how much I love him, your input will be highly appreciated.FOR MEN ONLY: married or not,pls answer?
MinMa,
My wife and I have been married for over 30 years. We have had our rough spots, but we have worked through them.
The one key thing is to let each-other know that you are committed to the other. I don't have a fear that my wife is going to get upset and leave. However, she knows, and has known for decades, that I am committed to her - and when we had kids at home, to them as well.
On her part, my wife committed herself to our kids (4) and me. I was career military, and every few years she watched her stuff being packed up and shipped. We lived in several states, and a couple foreign countries. Through it all, she remained form in her commitment to us.
MinMa, I hope this helps you.
';Ranger';FOR MEN ONLY: married or not,pls answer?
Be there and be his friend, lover and confidant. Never let him down. If you do he will be gone.
Remind him why he married you, by doing what you were doing then, admire, not criticize, be curious about him ,don't tell him how he should be.
Check something else, when you guys married, what was his thing about you that drew him to you? don't lose it, magnify it.
keep everything shaved nice and neat.
FOR MEN ONLY: is that really necesary, the sign? can a woman not answer this?
Do all the house work, and I don't give a rats patootey what Dr. Phil or Oprah had to say.
Well, besides the monthly payments, I always enjoyed those little touches. When he's just standing there or sitting there, a hug does wonders. Good luck.
If she has confidence without arrogance and also accepts love as well as give love.
Question is:
IS HE DOING THE SAME FOR YOU RIGHT NOW?
Beyond that, I'm not a guy, but the rules are the same for both sexes, if you are yourself, he will love you for you, there is nothing you can do to make him love you or love you more. If you have to ask what to do, then it isn't from your heart and he will know that and being fake is always a turn off.
I wanna show my husband how much I love him, your input will be highly appreciated.FOR MEN ONLY: married or not,pls answer?
MinMa,
My wife and I have been married for over 30 years. We have had our rough spots, but we have worked through them.
The one key thing is to let each-other know that you are committed to the other. I don't have a fear that my wife is going to get upset and leave. However, she knows, and has known for decades, that I am committed to her - and when we had kids at home, to them as well.
On her part, my wife committed herself to our kids (4) and me. I was career military, and every few years she watched her stuff being packed up and shipped. We lived in several states, and a couple foreign countries. Through it all, she remained form in her commitment to us.
MinMa, I hope this helps you.
';Ranger';FOR MEN ONLY: married or not,pls answer?
Be there and be his friend, lover and confidant. Never let him down. If you do he will be gone.
Remind him why he married you, by doing what you were doing then, admire, not criticize, be curious about him ,don't tell him how he should be.
Check something else, when you guys married, what was his thing about you that drew him to you? don't lose it, magnify it.
keep everything shaved nice and neat.
FOR MEN ONLY: is that really necesary, the sign? can a woman not answer this?
Do all the house work, and I don't give a rats patootey what Dr. Phil or Oprah had to say.
Well, besides the monthly payments, I always enjoyed those little touches. When he's just standing there or sitting there, a hug does wonders. Good luck.
If she has confidence without arrogance and also accepts love as well as give love.
Question is:
IS HE DOING THE SAME FOR YOU RIGHT NOW?
Beyond that, I'm not a guy, but the rules are the same for both sexes, if you are yourself, he will love you for you, there is nothing you can do to make him love you or love you more. If you have to ask what to do, then it isn't from your heart and he will know that and being fake is always a turn off.
Please help i think my friend is crazy?
Our friendship started out normal, we hung our a few times a week then we introduced our spouses. We have know each other for 4 months now and a little over a month ago. She wanted to help my husband and i make a budget chart. That ws cool no problem later she came back asing for my bank infor my social and other personal stuff. When i refused she got up set and wanted to know why i didnt trust her. Our husbands are in the same job together so this creates a good friendship with them. we couldnt figure out why he was so sweet to her until she told us she was on 11 different meds for her health. My husband and i have 3 children wich they instantly fell in love with. Almost to the point of wanting to raise them while i work. After a while she went behind my back and asked my husband for a key to our house so if we left town she could check on our home. Hw refused and she came to me and told me my husband refused to let her come to our house any more. About a week ago i was supposed to go to her house but my husband and i decided to stay in and have some aloe time she called me 20 times and 11 text of why i was not comming and how could i do this to her. After that she made it known that she would no longer call us we would have to come to her now because n her eyes we are just children who are inconsiderate of others. I had to leave town for a few days and the miunute i left she caled my husband and invited him over for dinner woth them. as he was leavind she told him you know if you divorce your wife you will get over her and those kids with in 3 months. Later that night she sent a text saying well if you dont want to divorce your wife you need to pray that god will forgive her for her child like issues and your horribule marriag and maby it will work out. She has attempted to dress like me AND HAS HER HAIR CUT LIKE ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO . Ifear my life is in danger because of this womanPlease help i think my friend is crazy?
I would cut all communication off with this woman. If she continues to bother you and your family call the police, get a restraining order if need be. You need to think of you %26amp; your families safety. There is CLEARLY something wrong with this woman.Please help i think my friend is crazy?
holy crap.
its like that movie
';Obsessed';
i think she is after you husband
i suggest moving.
or bringing this situation to HER husband.
i wish you good luck woman.
seriously i pray that your relationship is safe :]
ahh, help ! it's a wall of gossip text !!
shes crazy! or obsessed lol
she's crazy and she need's help.
From what you have written here it doesn't sound like you are in too much danger to me. But of course I really don't have any right to say that because I was not there. If you really, truly feel like you are in danger then the best idea is to go to the police. I might consider talking to her and explaining what is wrong. This may give you better insight into why she seems so upset with you. It seems like she is a VERY sensitive person. It seems like the real trouble began when you changed your mind about going to dinner with her and her husband. This may have made quite a few people angry as they probably put a lot of work into that dinner. Remember NEVER to give away your personal information to her no matter what she says. Also, make sure you don't let her near your children. My best advice would be to speak to her and ask (very politely) her why she is doing these things. Remember to be specific with what you say and make it very clear that you are frightened. If she continues to harass you and your family try to speak to a councilor and if you ever feel that you are in any real danger you should go to the police.
I would cut all communication off with this woman. If she continues to bother you and your family call the police, get a restraining order if need be. You need to think of you %26amp; your families safety. There is CLEARLY something wrong with this woman.Please help i think my friend is crazy?
holy crap.
its like that movie
';Obsessed';
i think she is after you husband
i suggest moving.
or bringing this situation to HER husband.
i wish you good luck woman.
seriously i pray that your relationship is safe :]
ahh, help ! it's a wall of gossip text !!
shes crazy! or obsessed lol
she's crazy and she need's help.
From what you have written here it doesn't sound like you are in too much danger to me. But of course I really don't have any right to say that because I was not there. If you really, truly feel like you are in danger then the best idea is to go to the police. I might consider talking to her and explaining what is wrong. This may give you better insight into why she seems so upset with you. It seems like she is a VERY sensitive person. It seems like the real trouble began when you changed your mind about going to dinner with her and her husband. This may have made quite a few people angry as they probably put a lot of work into that dinner. Remember NEVER to give away your personal information to her no matter what she says. Also, make sure you don't let her near your children. My best advice would be to speak to her and ask (very politely) her why she is doing these things. Remember to be specific with what you say and make it very clear that you are frightened. If she continues to harass you and your family try to speak to a councilor and if you ever feel that you are in any real danger you should go to the police.
Did my sister betray me, or am I just overreacting?
My sister said I could have one of her muts (75% Lab 25% shepherd), although her husband was selling them as 100% Labs charging people $250. I just fell in love with her she was the last one all white beautiful eyes grayish-green, I just felt a connection between the puppy and I. She would follow me everywhere and my sister even saw that. I had her name picked out, was buying her crate to crate train her, and then she calls me and tells me my god-son (her oldest son) wants to keep her. I said that's fine as long as I still get to see her, because I just want her to have a great loving home and plus my God-son is 5 years old. I'm not going to take away his puppy. She also added I could still go over and play with her so I agreed. I get to her house, her husband looks pissed, and as I get there my mother calls me to go over her house to eat, I said ok. At this point my godson has already seen me, runs up to me and say's my momma went to sell the dog, I look at him confused, and say no it's ok your mom said you are keeping her. I ask his dad if it's ok I take him with me to my mom's house, he agreed. In the car my God-son tells me that my sisters husband got mad that she was giving me the dog, so he sent her to sale it to wal-mart. Wow at this point I want to cry, how could she do this to me, lie to me I am her sister she could of told me at least! My sister's husband makes so much money, more than he needs and he is going to get mad over $250 for a puppy that will probably end up being neglected from some family when they find out she grows up and is not pure. The worst part is that my sister has not told me anything yet, she hasnt called me, nothing. I did text her and told her if it was money you wanted you could of asked. Plus the fact that I got lied too??... Her husband did leave me a voicemail saying ';I'm a buisness man, we both agreed to sell her';........ wow nice to hear from MY SISTER. She is my only sister so I'm still hurt a sorry from her would help, not a v/m from her husband.Did my sister betray me, or am I just overreacting?
I don't think you are overreacting. It seems to me that your brother-in-law wants to be in control of everything. I think you should tell your sister how you feel about her husband because this behavior coming from an adult is despicable. He is acting childish which is unfair to your godson (because, I can tell he really wanted that puppy)Did my sister betray me, or am I just overreacting?
OUCH! Take the knife out of your back! Boy, her husband pulled a fast one on you. I cannt believe they used their own kid to lie to you about selling a dog. Talk to your sister but don't ever forget she stabbed you in the back, and will do it again in a heartbeat. She listens to her husband first because she is married now. Whatever he says goes. Don't forget that.
Her husband is a manipulative greedy bastard. I'll fight him for $20.
No joke, he really is a **** bag. The fact that your sister hasn't contacted you, in my mind, is a sign of guilt.
If he sells mutts for $250 as pure bred, that alone is a mark of professional grade douchery.
i think ur sisters husband started to hear that,,,im sorry to here that tho, im sure is the dog a girl? im sure she/he will be put in a nice home thoug
No its OK I would totaly over react in this situation when you get your dog you will fall in love with it thow.
To me it sounds like your sister's husband is the one that caused all this. I think she may be in an abusive marriage. Maybe not physical, but mental. I think maybe your sister is afraid of her husband, and that is why she lied. I think maybe he wanted her to lie because for some reason he maybe still didn't want you to have it. I don't know why, but that's the feeling I got after I read that. I think you should watch out for your sister and her kids. My sister was in an abusive relationship both mental and physical and no one knew about it. So keep an eye open.
It wasn't your sister so much as it was her domineering, asshole husband who stepped in and caused this problem. He's a douchebag and I don't blame you for feeling like you got betrayed. You did.
I don't think you are overreacting. It seems to me that your brother-in-law wants to be in control of everything. I think you should tell your sister how you feel about her husband because this behavior coming from an adult is despicable. He is acting childish which is unfair to your godson (because, I can tell he really wanted that puppy)Did my sister betray me, or am I just overreacting?
OUCH! Take the knife out of your back! Boy, her husband pulled a fast one on you. I cannt believe they used their own kid to lie to you about selling a dog. Talk to your sister but don't ever forget she stabbed you in the back, and will do it again in a heartbeat. She listens to her husband first because she is married now. Whatever he says goes. Don't forget that.
Her husband is a manipulative greedy bastard. I'll fight him for $20.
No joke, he really is a **** bag. The fact that your sister hasn't contacted you, in my mind, is a sign of guilt.
If he sells mutts for $250 as pure bred, that alone is a mark of professional grade douchery.
i think ur sisters husband started to hear that,,,im sorry to here that tho, im sure is the dog a girl? im sure she/he will be put in a nice home thoug
No its OK I would totaly over react in this situation when you get your dog you will fall in love with it thow.
To me it sounds like your sister's husband is the one that caused all this. I think she may be in an abusive marriage. Maybe not physical, but mental. I think maybe your sister is afraid of her husband, and that is why she lied. I think maybe he wanted her to lie because for some reason he maybe still didn't want you to have it. I don't know why, but that's the feeling I got after I read that. I think you should watch out for your sister and her kids. My sister was in an abusive relationship both mental and physical and no one knew about it. So keep an eye open.
It wasn't your sister so much as it was her domineering, asshole husband who stepped in and caused this problem. He's a douchebag and I don't blame you for feeling like you got betrayed. You did.
Love my girlfriend so much, really think i want to be with her forever, but im really scared, help?
Hey, i have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. Im a senior in highschool, 18 years old, and my girlfriends in highschool, a junior whos 17. We have been together for all this time and have spent soo much time with eachother. We do everything together, we always get lunch and dinner, shes at my house probably 50 hours a week. We laugh together, we have so many inside jokes, no matter what we do we can have fun because we are with eachother. I hate how everybody says your in highschool you dont know anything, but i really am so happy with her. I do everything i can to make her smile, i love her smile so much, her laugh, and everything. I really do want to be with her forever, all the time i just imagine us living together and how happy i would be waking up to her every morning. (and yes we have slept together before). Now inbetween all of this we have been through a certain situation that was probably the worst 2 weeks of my life. We got into a major fight because i got mad at her being very very close with this other guy and i winded up apolagizing saying im sorry i should trust u, then, about 2 weeks later she told me she dosent want to be with me anymore, and went out with that guy, for about 2 weeks. They were the worth 2 weeks of my life, i spent everyday crying, doing nothing but laying down thinking of her. I didnt even think she cared about me anymore. 2 weeks after she was with him i heard from my best friend who she told that she broke up with him, and i asked him why and he said i dont know you should talk to her. She called me after work and said i left him, i dont want to be with him, i dont want him i want you, leaving you was a big mistake. She told me everything that happened, it hurt alot, but we got through it, she told me how much she missed me, and her bf even said something that reminded her of me and she broke down crying and told him some bullshit story.
its about a year later and we havent been through any situations like that, acouple fights here and there, but nothing like that. We have been so happy together, she says how she wants to marry me and i do believe her, because she never lies to me, ever, even if it would get me mad at her, and i love her for being honest with me. She trusts me, and i trust her. I really want to be with her forever, and most of my friends fell through in a hard to explain situation, and i really only have her and my business i recently created. I plan on moving in with her when i get situated out of highschool and shes of legal age, and she really wants to do it with me and she cant wait. I really think its what will make me happy, but i always have the fear shes going to do to me what she did to me before, even though i havent seen a sign of it for over a year. It just hurt me so much i dont think that pains ever going to go away. I really want to do all of this but i read everywhere how even wives of 20 years leave their husbands, how do i know that wont happen to me. I really need help.Love my girlfriend so much, really think i want to be with her forever, but im really scared, help?
thats hard. My fiance broke up with me after we first started dating. He all of a sudden stopped talking to me and broke up with me over facebook. I was so hurt, that week was the worst week of my life. We spent several months apart and pretty much got forced on a bowling team together. We started talking again and now, a year later....were engaged!
I do trust him, i know he loves me and he doesnt look at any other girl and he doesnt believe in divorce. BUT, thinking of him leaving me again, still is in the back of my mind. its hard to get rid of the thought when it did actually happen. You just really have to go with your gut and if you feel that she is the one and she really does love you and only you, then propose! :)
I dont advice you two to live with each other before marriage. Statistically, youre more likely to get a divorce. so please, wait to live together.antivirus downloads loan
its about a year later and we havent been through any situations like that, acouple fights here and there, but nothing like that. We have been so happy together, she says how she wants to marry me and i do believe her, because she never lies to me, ever, even if it would get me mad at her, and i love her for being honest with me. She trusts me, and i trust her. I really want to be with her forever, and most of my friends fell through in a hard to explain situation, and i really only have her and my business i recently created. I plan on moving in with her when i get situated out of highschool and shes of legal age, and she really wants to do it with me and she cant wait. I really think its what will make me happy, but i always have the fear shes going to do to me what she did to me before, even though i havent seen a sign of it for over a year. It just hurt me so much i dont think that pains ever going to go away. I really want to do all of this but i read everywhere how even wives of 20 years leave their husbands, how do i know that wont happen to me. I really need help.Love my girlfriend so much, really think i want to be with her forever, but im really scared, help?
thats hard. My fiance broke up with me after we first started dating. He all of a sudden stopped talking to me and broke up with me over facebook. I was so hurt, that week was the worst week of my life. We spent several months apart and pretty much got forced on a bowling team together. We started talking again and now, a year later....were engaged!
I do trust him, i know he loves me and he doesnt look at any other girl and he doesnt believe in divorce. BUT, thinking of him leaving me again, still is in the back of my mind. its hard to get rid of the thought when it did actually happen. You just really have to go with your gut and if you feel that she is the one and she really does love you and only you, then propose! :)
I dont advice you two to live with each other before marriage. Statistically, youre more likely to get a divorce. so please, wait to live together.
How do you know if it's time to put your dog down or not?
Our dog is 12 - 14 years old. She can't see, can't hear very well, her back legs slip out from under her, she can't go down our 3 steps to go out side and go potty, without either jumping, which sounds terrible when she does, she has fallen flat, sounds like it hurts. Or when she waits long enough for us to help, her back legs drag down the steps. She has problems pooping lately, constipated and it is hard watching her keep trying, she pees in the house and it is starting to smell (even though I try to always catch it and clean it up good and have shampoo'd the carpets a few times too). Can't find doggie diaphers to fit her or ones that will stay on, when she lays down and my husband doesn't think pee pads (or diaphers) should be used. My husband says it's time, I just don't know I can, I feel if her heart is still working, can I do that? Still likes to be petted, loves her food (or people food anyhow, with her food), seems to just want to be loved and good if she is just laying or sitting (although she use to lay on her sides a lot, now doesn't nearly as much, flat on her belly, which makes me think she just isn't comfortable). Vet said she is on her last year he thinks. He didn't say she is in pain though, but she has a couple masses that he said just let them be, at her age. Plus a mole that was swollen and infected and kept bleeding and bleeding. Got some medication for that, swelling has gone down and bleeding seems to have stopped, but the vet said he didn't think it would (for now I think he was wrong on that). He said we should think about removing it. We decided not to, at 675.00 and with her other health issues and a year or less, and he said it isn't hurting her, attached to nothing on the inside. You get the feeling often she doesn't even know who you are or where she is. Although, that seems to have gotten better since we started Anipryl two weeks ago. But that costs 85.00 a month and if it really is/will work, were yet to see (they say 30 - 60 days and then only works in like 70% of dogs). I know one person who tried it on her dog and she said nope, didn't work, so she took her off. She couldn't see paying that if she didn't think it was working. Our dog sleeps all the time, doesn't run much out side anymore, never barks or whines. We have to get up multiple times in the middle of the night to take her out, so she won't pee in the house. She gets up and paces in the middle of the night. We haven't had to do it much, but it seems like she can't even wait to go pee when she has been in her kennel more then 6 hours and yet starting this week, so goes back to her kennel like 11 hours, a couple times a week, due to we have to work (I was off on a medical leave, so been home with her a lot over the past 6 weeks). I am thinking she won't make it all day and will need baths daily, which my husband won't deal with. He comes from a farm, outside dogs and he says no way, we can't keep on going with the peeing in the house and etc. Nothing I do will change her seeing, hearing, back legs and her age. But I am just wondering if now is or isn't the time. Wonder when you say what quality of life is this for yer and if it's not, is it time? She sleeps all the time and just isn't herself, like she use to be. Loved outdoors, now never wants to be out, loved to run, now runs a few feet only and is done, slips off other steps because she doesn't know she is at a step and .... I just don't know what to do, when do you know it's time and what do you do when it's effecting your relationship with your other half when you both believe different things with the situation and you don't sleep at night anymore, because of your dog (who I love very much), can't leave your house for more then a certain amount of time, for outings, so your life isn't being lived like it use to be neither and .... How do you know if it's time to put your dog down or not?
Too much text... too late at night...
I will tell you this though. Your dog will lose her spark. She will loose her special edge, she won't be the same... once it gets to the point where she just isn't your dog anymore, then you will know.
If she's in pain, if it's hurting her, if she doesn't seem the same mentally, then you'll know.How do you know if it's time to put your dog down or not?
I am very sorry to hear about your dog, because we have had to put a dog to sleep and it is very sad. One thing I remember our dogs doctor saying that we would know when it was time, because we would see when the dog wasn't getting any quality of life.
We really could tell when that happen, but it was not easy. I'm sorry your dog is not well.
It's time.
Your dog is in too much pain. Do the unselfish thing and let her go. That was very sad to read. Please do not feel guilty. You should feel proud if anything. I know had that been my parent's dog, they wouldn't even have made a move to get it to a vet. You went the extra mile and paid tons of money to keep that dog as happy as possible.
But there are some things money can't buy. =(
When there are more bad times than good, more bad days than good then it is time. It is never an easy decision.
If it were my dog, I would give it 1 last month, and spoil it rotten. Then I would have it put down. Better too early than too late. Sorry.
1. If you are unselfish, and truly focused on what's best for your dog, you will know when the time is right.
2. This question has been asked several times before. You might use the search feature and look up other peoples' answers.
May the Lord guide you to a good decisioin.
Follow your heart sweety. You know it's wrong to put her down. If she was in agony, pain and suffering then i'd say do it with no problem because this is what she would want but just because it might be hard to see your baby getting older, or because she's become sorta inconvenient or burdensome, or because she's not as ';fun'; as she may used to be is wrong. you still love her i can tell. she's your baby and she's not ready to go and your not ready to let her go. It's not time baby. If she's suffering then do it but if she's still enjoying life and is just an old lady then life goes on. Talk to God on this one. Make sure she has all the meds and things that can help her with her constipation, pain, etc. talk to ur vet but you can give dogs aspirin for pain but is extreely small amounts
What a sad story.
My dog had something similar happening for a while, though she was only 9 years old. For her, it was a combination of age and a brain tumor. Her adrenal glands were malfunctioning and everything. We tried a bunch of medications and treatments and such, and finally decided we would try treatment for one more week before having her put down. Before the week was up, she just lay down and died in the middle of the kitchen floor.
It almost sounds like you are asking someone to say it is all right to put her down. It is, unless you want to keep dealing with the problems you have described, especially if you won't be around her as much due to work. It is a very hard thing to do but her quality of life is not good unless you are there all the time to help her, and if you can't be, then it's not good. She is basically living for you at this point. If she is pacing at night she is not well and is distressed, and the masses she has in her will eventually give her a stroke, if she already hasn't had one ( sounds like she has possibly had a mini stroke or two with her symptoms). I have had two dogs go through exactly this and both had strokes and I had to put them to sleep. It is awful but you don't want them suffering either.
I had to put my Dalmation down when he turned 14 and displayed the same symptoms. He lost all control over his urine and bowel movements. When he would walk he couldn't feel his toes curling under his foot. He had cataracts and was going deaf. He has trouble getting up from a sitting or lying position. I made the decision because I knew it was time because his quality of life was no longer there. It was my gut feeling. I had him since he was a year old and yes it was a very hard decision to make. You may not have her, but you will have many wonderful memories. I would say please put her down and let her live in doggie heaven and your heart.
Having to euthanize and say good-bye to a beloved companion pet is one of the hardest things that many pet parents have to go through. I am sad to say, from the things you wrote, it is time for you to let your dear friend rest and cross the rainbow bridge. Schedule a day where you first let her do some of the most favorite things she can do in the morning, whether it be going with you for a short walk, laying down on the floor and being petted, and let her have whatever special foods or treats she likes. Then in the afternoon, take her in, calmly hug her and hold her while she is humanely euthanized, so she does not pass away alone and abandoned. Let her feel as safe and comfortable as possible at the vets, and save your tears for afterward, for your dog's sake.
Take some time after that for yourself and your spouse to repair any negative effect this has had on your relationship. When you are ready, consider adopting a shelter dog, perhaps one that reminds you of her in some special way.
Letting go is hard, but it seems clear from what you wrote that it is time.
for more information on dog-related issues, check out Sharon McCuddy's ';Lucky Dog'; article series, it's free at http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/32鈥?/a>
no one can tell u what to do and the best i can tell u is if that were u ( put ur self in her postion) and u couldnt talk than what would u want i have had to deal with this many times with my pets and it seems to show in their eyes the look of defeat or giving up and they wont let go untill u let them know it is ok for them to do so dogs want nothing more to please and if that means hiding the pain and missery they will just to know that their owners are happy with them as crazy as it sounds ask her and let her know that if u are ok for her to let go and that u love her and u know her body is tired even though her soul and heart may not be that it is ok to let u know and ok to let go if she has to that if she dosent want to keep fight u are ok with it and u love her no matter what i am truely sorry to hear that she is so poor off and i know it is a very hard call to make but u will know when the time is right and u have to put her feelings befor ur own even if it leads u to a path u may not want to take at least with pets we can allow the passing to be peacefull as possible
The only thing I would say is bring the vet to your house so your dog passes in familiar surroundings and with familliar smells. We all feel for you.
Well, there is never a good time to have a pet euthanized, but you can wait too long. You don't want to say to yourself afterwards ';I wish I had done this sooner, before ... happened.';
If you are concerned about what your vet or the other employees at your vets office will think, they will support you in your decision. I know sometimes people think that we will judge them for not trying harder, but that is so far from the truth. Honestly, we wonder how you were able to take care of an aging/ailing pet for so long!
In the end it is up to you. My recommendation is to do it before it becomes an emergency.
This is a hard question and only one that you can answer.
I'm sorry that you're going through this and having to make the decision, but you have to look at the dog's quality of life and if she is enjoying it.
I can definitely understand that you don't want to let her go, so my question is this: I know you've taken her to the vet and the vet told you that she's on her last legs, but have you asked the vet if there is anything that he can give her that would help with her being unable to hold her bladder?
If the only problem is that she can't hold her bladder, then I would let her be and spoil her rotten for whatever time she has left. . If she were in pain or suffering, then I would tell you it's time to let her go and end her suffering.
As I said, this is a decision that you have to make because you know what your dog is going through and what her quality of life is like. I'm sorry that I can't give you a more definitive response, other than follow your heart.
First of all, I am so sorry about your dog and you having to go through this. I've been in a similar situation, so I hope I can help. My Lady went downhill when she was 14 years old. She'd suffered from arthritis for years, but got to the point that she couldn't get up without help, and often needed help walking. Her appetite decreased tremendously and she lost a lot of weight (ribs and spine were visible). For a month or two (I can't remember exactly) her days were spent laying around. She became completely incontinent. I had to change her bedding, many times a day, wash her rear end and legs every day and roll her over several times a day. It is A LOT OF WORK keeping an elderly dog going. What kept me going? Knowing that this dog was fighting to stay alive for one thing, my company. Every time I would walk into the room her tail would thump, thump, thump excitedly like it always had. She would pant and breathe excitedly. I would brush, rub, and massage her. All the while talking to her. It was all we had. I knew ';it'; was coming, and decided to let my HEART tell me when it was time to let her go. The day I walked into see her in the morning and she didn't look up, didn't wag her tail, I knew it was time. I had her put to sleep the next day.
Please have a heart to heart with your husband. I totally understand where he's coming from (the farm dog mentality), but if he loves you, he'll let you decide when it's time. Go with your gut. Love her until the end. Charish it.
As for the meds, if they aren't working, I wouldn't continue them. I'd put pads down in her crate for the days she has to be in there along time. Just remember the hard work of taking care of an elderly dog comes with responsibility of bringing a dog into your life. You can put non-slip mats on your outside steps to help her get up and down them. If she needs help climbing stairs/walking, you can use a towel to help support her weight. While she's standing, put the towel around her belly, right in front of her hind legs. hold both ends of the towels in the air so that it is creating a hammock type sling for her body. Slightly lift her body up while she's walking, so to take the pressure of her weight off of her legs.
read these poems and I think they say so much
I do think it's time one reason she is looking for the love is to be comforted because of her health issues.
I know it's one of the hardest things you will ever do but as the poems will say if you love me let me go...
May I Go Now
May I go Now?
Do you think the time is right?
May I say good-bye to pain filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I've lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be.
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?
I didn't want to go at first.
I fought with all my might.
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go.
I really do.
It's difficult to stay.
But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day.
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and afraid,
because I see your tears.
I'll not be far,
I promise that,
and hope you'll always know
that my spirit will be close to you,
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I love you too,
that's why it's hard to say good-bye
and end this life with you.
So hold me now, just one more time
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you'll let me go today
**************************************鈥?br>
TREAT ME KINDLY
Treat me kindly, my beloved friend,
For no heart in all the world is more
rateful for kindness than the loving
heart of me.
Do not break my spirit with a stick,
For though I should lick your hand
between blows, your patience and
understanding will more quickly
teach me the things you would
have me learn.
Speak to me often, For your voice is
the world's sweetest music, as you must
know by the fierce wagging of my tail
when your footsteps fall upon my ears.
Please take me inside when it is cold
and wet, For I am a domesticated
animal, no longer accustomed to the
bitter elements. I ask no greater glory
than the privilege of sitting at your
feet beside the hearth.
Keep my pan filled with water, for I
cannot tell you when I suffer thirst.
Feed me clean food that I may stay well,
to romp and play and do your bidding,
to walk by your side, and stand ready,
willing and able to protect you with
my life, should your life be in danger.
And, my friend, when I am very old, and
I no longer enjoy good health, hearing
and good sight, do not make heroic
efforts to keep me going.
I am not having fun. Please see that my
trusting life is taken gently. I shall
leave this earth knowing with the last
breath I drew, that my fate was always
safest in your hand.
--- By Beth Norman Harris 1968 ---
**************************************鈥?
PUT ME TO REST
Time to let me go my friend,
Because my life no-one can mend,
Its better to let me go this way,
Than watch me suffer night and day.
I'm happy to go, my time has come,
My quality of life is no longer fun,
Ive been so ill, so its not a bad thing,
To let me go forever resting.
Stay with me till I drift away,
Fast asleep forever I pray,
To relieve me from suffering and pain,
What more can I ask from my best friend.
Don't be sad, I'll be free from pain,
Never to be ill ever again,
I know you'll miss me being there,
But all the memories you have to share.
Thankyou for being my best friend,
And all my needs that you did tend,
Try not to be sad, try not to cry,
Now's the time to say GOODBYE
****************************************鈥?br>
RainbowsBridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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I will tell you this though. Your dog will lose her spark. She will loose her special edge, she won't be the same... once it gets to the point where she just isn't your dog anymore, then you will know.
If she's in pain, if it's hurting her, if she doesn't seem the same mentally, then you'll know.How do you know if it's time to put your dog down or not?
I am very sorry to hear about your dog, because we have had to put a dog to sleep and it is very sad. One thing I remember our dogs doctor saying that we would know when it was time, because we would see when the dog wasn't getting any quality of life.
We really could tell when that happen, but it was not easy. I'm sorry your dog is not well.
It's time.
Your dog is in too much pain. Do the unselfish thing and let her go. That was very sad to read. Please do not feel guilty. You should feel proud if anything. I know had that been my parent's dog, they wouldn't even have made a move to get it to a vet. You went the extra mile and paid tons of money to keep that dog as happy as possible.
But there are some things money can't buy. =(
When there are more bad times than good, more bad days than good then it is time. It is never an easy decision.
If it were my dog, I would give it 1 last month, and spoil it rotten. Then I would have it put down. Better too early than too late. Sorry.
1. If you are unselfish, and truly focused on what's best for your dog, you will know when the time is right.
2. This question has been asked several times before. You might use the search feature and look up other peoples' answers.
May the Lord guide you to a good decisioin.
Follow your heart sweety. You know it's wrong to put her down. If she was in agony, pain and suffering then i'd say do it with no problem because this is what she would want but just because it might be hard to see your baby getting older, or because she's become sorta inconvenient or burdensome, or because she's not as ';fun'; as she may used to be is wrong. you still love her i can tell. she's your baby and she's not ready to go and your not ready to let her go. It's not time baby. If she's suffering then do it but if she's still enjoying life and is just an old lady then life goes on. Talk to God on this one. Make sure she has all the meds and things that can help her with her constipation, pain, etc. talk to ur vet but you can give dogs aspirin for pain but is extreely small amounts
What a sad story.
My dog had something similar happening for a while, though she was only 9 years old. For her, it was a combination of age and a brain tumor. Her adrenal glands were malfunctioning and everything. We tried a bunch of medications and treatments and such, and finally decided we would try treatment for one more week before having her put down. Before the week was up, she just lay down and died in the middle of the kitchen floor.
It almost sounds like you are asking someone to say it is all right to put her down. It is, unless you want to keep dealing with the problems you have described, especially if you won't be around her as much due to work. It is a very hard thing to do but her quality of life is not good unless you are there all the time to help her, and if you can't be, then it's not good. She is basically living for you at this point. If she is pacing at night she is not well and is distressed, and the masses she has in her will eventually give her a stroke, if she already hasn't had one ( sounds like she has possibly had a mini stroke or two with her symptoms). I have had two dogs go through exactly this and both had strokes and I had to put them to sleep. It is awful but you don't want them suffering either.
I had to put my Dalmation down when he turned 14 and displayed the same symptoms. He lost all control over his urine and bowel movements. When he would walk he couldn't feel his toes curling under his foot. He had cataracts and was going deaf. He has trouble getting up from a sitting or lying position. I made the decision because I knew it was time because his quality of life was no longer there. It was my gut feeling. I had him since he was a year old and yes it was a very hard decision to make. You may not have her, but you will have many wonderful memories. I would say please put her down and let her live in doggie heaven and your heart.
Having to euthanize and say good-bye to a beloved companion pet is one of the hardest things that many pet parents have to go through. I am sad to say, from the things you wrote, it is time for you to let your dear friend rest and cross the rainbow bridge. Schedule a day where you first let her do some of the most favorite things she can do in the morning, whether it be going with you for a short walk, laying down on the floor and being petted, and let her have whatever special foods or treats she likes. Then in the afternoon, take her in, calmly hug her and hold her while she is humanely euthanized, so she does not pass away alone and abandoned. Let her feel as safe and comfortable as possible at the vets, and save your tears for afterward, for your dog's sake.
Take some time after that for yourself and your spouse to repair any negative effect this has had on your relationship. When you are ready, consider adopting a shelter dog, perhaps one that reminds you of her in some special way.
Letting go is hard, but it seems clear from what you wrote that it is time.
for more information on dog-related issues, check out Sharon McCuddy's ';Lucky Dog'; article series, it's free at http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/32鈥?/a>
no one can tell u what to do and the best i can tell u is if that were u ( put ur self in her postion) and u couldnt talk than what would u want i have had to deal with this many times with my pets and it seems to show in their eyes the look of defeat or giving up and they wont let go untill u let them know it is ok for them to do so dogs want nothing more to please and if that means hiding the pain and missery they will just to know that their owners are happy with them as crazy as it sounds ask her and let her know that if u are ok for her to let go and that u love her and u know her body is tired even though her soul and heart may not be that it is ok to let u know and ok to let go if she has to that if she dosent want to keep fight u are ok with it and u love her no matter what i am truely sorry to hear that she is so poor off and i know it is a very hard call to make but u will know when the time is right and u have to put her feelings befor ur own even if it leads u to a path u may not want to take at least with pets we can allow the passing to be peacefull as possible
The only thing I would say is bring the vet to your house so your dog passes in familiar surroundings and with familliar smells. We all feel for you.
Well, there is never a good time to have a pet euthanized, but you can wait too long. You don't want to say to yourself afterwards ';I wish I had done this sooner, before ... happened.';
If you are concerned about what your vet or the other employees at your vets office will think, they will support you in your decision. I know sometimes people think that we will judge them for not trying harder, but that is so far from the truth. Honestly, we wonder how you were able to take care of an aging/ailing pet for so long!
In the end it is up to you. My recommendation is to do it before it becomes an emergency.
This is a hard question and only one that you can answer.
I'm sorry that you're going through this and having to make the decision, but you have to look at the dog's quality of life and if she is enjoying it.
I can definitely understand that you don't want to let her go, so my question is this: I know you've taken her to the vet and the vet told you that she's on her last legs, but have you asked the vet if there is anything that he can give her that would help with her being unable to hold her bladder?
If the only problem is that she can't hold her bladder, then I would let her be and spoil her rotten for whatever time she has left. . If she were in pain or suffering, then I would tell you it's time to let her go and end her suffering.
As I said, this is a decision that you have to make because you know what your dog is going through and what her quality of life is like. I'm sorry that I can't give you a more definitive response, other than follow your heart.
First of all, I am so sorry about your dog and you having to go through this. I've been in a similar situation, so I hope I can help. My Lady went downhill when she was 14 years old. She'd suffered from arthritis for years, but got to the point that she couldn't get up without help, and often needed help walking. Her appetite decreased tremendously and she lost a lot of weight (ribs and spine were visible). For a month or two (I can't remember exactly) her days were spent laying around. She became completely incontinent. I had to change her bedding, many times a day, wash her rear end and legs every day and roll her over several times a day. It is A LOT OF WORK keeping an elderly dog going. What kept me going? Knowing that this dog was fighting to stay alive for one thing, my company. Every time I would walk into the room her tail would thump, thump, thump excitedly like it always had. She would pant and breathe excitedly. I would brush, rub, and massage her. All the while talking to her. It was all we had. I knew ';it'; was coming, and decided to let my HEART tell me when it was time to let her go. The day I walked into see her in the morning and she didn't look up, didn't wag her tail, I knew it was time. I had her put to sleep the next day.
Please have a heart to heart with your husband. I totally understand where he's coming from (the farm dog mentality), but if he loves you, he'll let you decide when it's time. Go with your gut. Love her until the end. Charish it.
As for the meds, if they aren't working, I wouldn't continue them. I'd put pads down in her crate for the days she has to be in there along time. Just remember the hard work of taking care of an elderly dog comes with responsibility of bringing a dog into your life. You can put non-slip mats on your outside steps to help her get up and down them. If she needs help climbing stairs/walking, you can use a towel to help support her weight. While she's standing, put the towel around her belly, right in front of her hind legs. hold both ends of the towels in the air so that it is creating a hammock type sling for her body. Slightly lift her body up while she's walking, so to take the pressure of her weight off of her legs.
read these poems and I think they say so much
I do think it's time one reason she is looking for the love is to be comforted because of her health issues.
I know it's one of the hardest things you will ever do but as the poems will say if you love me let me go...
May I Go Now
May I go Now?
Do you think the time is right?
May I say good-bye to pain filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I've lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be.
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?
I didn't want to go at first.
I fought with all my might.
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go.
I really do.
It's difficult to stay.
But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day.
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and afraid,
because I see your tears.
I'll not be far,
I promise that,
and hope you'll always know
that my spirit will be close to you,
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I love you too,
that's why it's hard to say good-bye
and end this life with you.
So hold me now, just one more time
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you'll let me go today
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TREAT ME KINDLY
Treat me kindly, my beloved friend,
For no heart in all the world is more
rateful for kindness than the loving
heart of me.
Do not break my spirit with a stick,
For though I should lick your hand
between blows, your patience and
understanding will more quickly
teach me the things you would
have me learn.
Speak to me often, For your voice is
the world's sweetest music, as you must
know by the fierce wagging of my tail
when your footsteps fall upon my ears.
Please take me inside when it is cold
and wet, For I am a domesticated
animal, no longer accustomed to the
bitter elements. I ask no greater glory
than the privilege of sitting at your
feet beside the hearth.
Keep my pan filled with water, for I
cannot tell you when I suffer thirst.
Feed me clean food that I may stay well,
to romp and play and do your bidding,
to walk by your side, and stand ready,
willing and able to protect you with
my life, should your life be in danger.
And, my friend, when I am very old, and
I no longer enjoy good health, hearing
and good sight, do not make heroic
efforts to keep me going.
I am not having fun. Please see that my
trusting life is taken gently. I shall
leave this earth knowing with the last
breath I drew, that my fate was always
safest in your hand.
--- By Beth Norman Harris 1968 ---
**************************************鈥?
PUT ME TO REST
Time to let me go my friend,
Because my life no-one can mend,
Its better to let me go this way,
Than watch me suffer night and day.
I'm happy to go, my time has come,
My quality of life is no longer fun,
Ive been so ill, so its not a bad thing,
To let me go forever resting.
Stay with me till I drift away,
Fast asleep forever I pray,
To relieve me from suffering and pain,
What more can I ask from my best friend.
Don't be sad, I'll be free from pain,
Never to be ill ever again,
I know you'll miss me being there,
But all the memories you have to share.
Thankyou for being my best friend,
And all my needs that you did tend,
Try not to be sad, try not to cry,
Now's the time to say GOODBYE
****************************************鈥?br>
RainbowsBridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
How do I stop feeling so angry with my ex husband?
I am 36 years old, met someone nearly 3 years ago who ';I thought'; was a nice senstive guy, who had been through quite lot in his life, neglect from his mother, abuse as a tennager and other stuff in varuious relationships so I knew he had troubles and suffered with ';depression'; as I often have different times in my life. I had a 10 year old and 3 year old boys, and he had a 3 year old little girl. First 9 months seemed ';OK';, up and down, some odd behaviour, then the real person started to come to life, when going through some physcotherapy for ';supposed abuse';, you prob ask ';why supposed'; because lately many ';stories and lies'; have come to light and I now see this is how he pulls women into his life, who are ususally ';older'; he is 5 year younger than me, and then begins to manipulate and control them and their children. We had 4 months of anger, crying, moods, days of not speaking, threats of suicide often, then came the physical abuse to my eldest child, he loved the youngest but the eldest he could not relate to, the aruguments, the picking on him , the put downs the making and telling me I was doing everything wrong and he was a bad child, he is difficult but he is a good kid. Everyone around me said stop this now, leave before he ruins your lives, but would I, no I stayed becuase I thought I could SAVE him....Sept 08 we got married, small ceremony, no family there as both families disliked us as individuals, things were ok for about 4 weeks after we got married, then he started another set of therapy, and guess what ';they told him they thought he had BPD, Boerderline Personality Disorder';. I knew nothing about this, read lots and it all fell into place his behaviour the controlling manupilation trying to make me choose between him and my kids etc, things got worse again and last Jan I moved out and I left him, and that was it for me. He pestered me, begged, threatend, promised he would get help and he loved me, and how could I just abandon him like everyon else did??? Guilt crept in and I had him back in March last year, my eldest son was not happy but I had warned him that if he touched him again I would tell the poilce so he just never spoke to my son when he moved back in. Few months were OK, then he started Sept after a 2 week holiday, moaning about my son and this and that, then the suicide theats began, I have watched him wrap belts around his throat, take tablets, hold a knife to his wrist, I have called the Crisis Team over and over, the police, I have been to all his appointments, but I couldnt take anymore and I chucked him out. He threatend the texts carried on, everything was my fault, I was a bad wife, bad mother, I was to blame for it all. I have been on 40mg of prozac since November, I let him back into my life over xmas, not move in but we spent time together (again I was weak), then I found he was texting a women at work, I found 42 texts messages on his bill to her in one night, Oh they deny it all etc etc I am the mad one I am seeing a solicitor on Monday and am filing for divorce, which frightens me but I want out. I feel like I have been emotionally and mentally abused by this man for 3 years, I nearly lost my son and my family. I work full time, I am a good mum and if someon can love me right can be a good partner, but how do I stop these feelings of hate and anger towards my ex husband, I want to find ways to hurt him and his family, to make him see how much he has hurt me. I am scared I will never get over this, please help and tell me what to do?How do I stop feeling so angry with my ex husband?
It seems like you have described my life.
Text issues as well...He is bipolar and we eloped back in Sept 2008 as well. Just the 2 of us.
I am sorry. Wish I could help.How do I stop feeling so angry with my ex husband?
Congratulations for taking the step to get out of this abusive relationship. It's normal to feel angry about how he treated you and your family. Use it to give you the strength tomorrow to start your divorce. Don't waste your energy on revenge, no good ever comes of it. It hurts you more in the end. Channel your energy to doing what needs to be done to help yourself and your family move forward.
I know it's hard to believe but you will get through this and even get over it. You can make a choice to be bitter and stuck, or learn from the experience and be wiser and stronger. Eventually for your own sanity you will need to forgive him so you can fully release him -otherwise by reliving it over and over it's like getting abused again over and over. Don't give him that kind of power over you. Moreso, you'll need to forgive yourself for getting caught up in it all. Here's some help with forgiving when your ready http://www.holistic-mindbody-healing.com鈥?/a>
Good luck tomorrow, I'm cheering for you.
It seems like you have described my life.
Text issues as well...He is bipolar and we eloped back in Sept 2008 as well. Just the 2 of us.
I am sorry. Wish I could help.How do I stop feeling so angry with my ex husband?
Congratulations for taking the step to get out of this abusive relationship. It's normal to feel angry about how he treated you and your family. Use it to give you the strength tomorrow to start your divorce. Don't waste your energy on revenge, no good ever comes of it. It hurts you more in the end. Channel your energy to doing what needs to be done to help yourself and your family move forward.
I know it's hard to believe but you will get through this and even get over it. You can make a choice to be bitter and stuck, or learn from the experience and be wiser and stronger. Eventually for your own sanity you will need to forgive him so you can fully release him -otherwise by reliving it over and over it's like getting abused again over and over. Don't give him that kind of power over you. Moreso, you'll need to forgive yourself for getting caught up in it all. Here's some help with forgiving when your ready http://www.holistic-mindbody-healing.com鈥?/a>
Good luck tomorrow, I'm cheering for you.
Relationship advice, please. How serious is this? Thank you for your time and advice.?
I have a question about love.
Details:
-I am mid 20s, he is 4 years older than me.
-We have dated for almost 4 years
I started dating him soon after getting out of a serious relationship with someone that I fell head over heels for. Sort of a 'help me get over the past' kind of dating. I trained myself to not fall for him because I didn't want anything serious. I stayed with him regardless- now almost 4 years.
He is wonderful. He is everything anyone would ever want in a future husband. He is patient, kind, very caring, understanding, loves me unconditionally and helps me through everything! We have been through a lot of stressful situations throughout our 4 years which could contribute to my questioning.
I am being ultra-picky about my relationship with him: I am outgoing, he is more reserved but still fun a lot of the time- just not as outgoing. I work regular week-hours, he works horrible hours, all holidays and every weekend. I am a constant mover- very fast pace-outgoing, he is slower- drags his feet with things/projects. These things are annoying to me.
All of my friends and close family are getting married and I am just scared! I am completely honest with my boyfriend about me NOT being ready to make that move and he respects that. He isn't planning to ask me until I'm sure and I'm ready... but how do I know to hold on in order to be sure? Or to let go? Read on...
I over analyze EVERYTHING and a lot lately I have been over-analyzing my relationship with this guy. He is amazing but how do I know when it is right? I love our relationship except for a few differences and things that I mentioned above. I need to be reminded that NO match is ever perfect. But honestly, are my analyzations and confusions worth worrying about?
I'm looking at it as: there is nothing currently wrong with our relationship (...except me thinking too much and being scared which create my 'doubts' and analyzations and me being scared of the future...) so there is no need to make it or break it right now. Ride it out. No need to take steps backwards (break up) and definitely no need to take steps forward (engagement). I just dont want to be stagnate.
What do you think? I'm so confused as to how I am supposed to feel!!! (PS- there is NO one else in the picture. NO desire to date anyone else, start over, explore or anything- just want to know if I am doing the right thing by holding on throughout these scary feelings or if I should let go and test the waters by breaking it off)Relationship advice, please. How serious is this? Thank you for your time and advice.?
its pretty serious you guys should get married
Details:
-I am mid 20s, he is 4 years older than me.
-We have dated for almost 4 years
I started dating him soon after getting out of a serious relationship with someone that I fell head over heels for. Sort of a 'help me get over the past' kind of dating. I trained myself to not fall for him because I didn't want anything serious. I stayed with him regardless- now almost 4 years.
He is wonderful. He is everything anyone would ever want in a future husband. He is patient, kind, very caring, understanding, loves me unconditionally and helps me through everything! We have been through a lot of stressful situations throughout our 4 years which could contribute to my questioning.
I am being ultra-picky about my relationship with him: I am outgoing, he is more reserved but still fun a lot of the time- just not as outgoing. I work regular week-hours, he works horrible hours, all holidays and every weekend. I am a constant mover- very fast pace-outgoing, he is slower- drags his feet with things/projects. These things are annoying to me.
All of my friends and close family are getting married and I am just scared! I am completely honest with my boyfriend about me NOT being ready to make that move and he respects that. He isn't planning to ask me until I'm sure and I'm ready... but how do I know to hold on in order to be sure? Or to let go? Read on...
I over analyze EVERYTHING and a lot lately I have been over-analyzing my relationship with this guy. He is amazing but how do I know when it is right? I love our relationship except for a few differences and things that I mentioned above. I need to be reminded that NO match is ever perfect. But honestly, are my analyzations and confusions worth worrying about?
I'm looking at it as: there is nothing currently wrong with our relationship (...except me thinking too much and being scared which create my 'doubts' and analyzations and me being scared of the future...) so there is no need to make it or break it right now. Ride it out. No need to take steps backwards (break up) and definitely no need to take steps forward (engagement). I just dont want to be stagnate.
What do you think? I'm so confused as to how I am supposed to feel!!! (PS- there is NO one else in the picture. NO desire to date anyone else, start over, explore or anything- just want to know if I am doing the right thing by holding on throughout these scary feelings or if I should let go and test the waters by breaking it off)Relationship advice, please. How serious is this? Thank you for your time and advice.?
its pretty serious you guys should get married
Need some advice: Isn't being pregnant supposed to be the most happy and exciting time in your life?
I am 5.5 months pregnant, and I don't really know where to start:
For the last 3 weeks, I have become more focused on my husbands relationship with the baby once it is born, and not my relationship with him or the baby, or all three of us. I think about what I will do to support my husband and the baby, working, paying the mortgage, and sometimes even about leaving him to do it on his own. (I hate myself for thinking about the last option, because how much of a bad mum does that make me sound wanting to leave the little baby that isn't even here yet!).
I think about the birth, and the baby being handed to my husband, and me not wanting anything to do with the baby, or rather pushing my husband and the baby away, so they bond together and I don't bond with the baby.
My husband has bought me down so much that I feel I am inadequate in every way. For example, I am accused of never mop the floor or take the garbage out. If I mow the lawn around the clothesline I am accused of doing a half job that he has to go and fix anyway, so why should I bother.
I used to love to cook before I fell pregnant, but he now accuses me of cooking terrible meals. I now hate cooking and he hasstronglyy suggested that he should do the cooking at night. (which would be great, but I am in bed about 9, and he usually finishes preparing dinner between 9-930)
My husband hasaccusedd me of not supporting him enough, but I didn't know I stopped supporting him and he hasn't told me how I should be doing this.
The weekends arrive and he wants to unwind and relax at the pub: it has become a rather boring place for me now, not drinking and my tolerance for ';happy'; drunks is waning.
I know that I have become less tolerant, emotional and scatter brain being pregnant, or a bit of a b*%^h, but I can't seem to get any support from my husband, who tells me I should ';take some cement and harden up';.
To top it all off, I have been overlooked for three promotions at work, I don't have any interests outside of work as I had to give up my passion of wine and love of hockey when I fell pregnant. I don't have many close girlfriends to turn to.
I don't want this to turn into a man bashing thing, even though it kinda sounds like it above, but I am hoping that you may have some strategies for coping with my emotions and pulling my self esteem back together. Maybe some of you have some stories you would like to share?
ThanksNeed some advice: Isn't being pregnant supposed to be the most happy and exciting time in your life?
I had loads of worries about how we'd cope, but if you feel it's really bad you could always try marriage counselling so that you both can talk honestly but away from your home - I do recommend counselling for big stuff like this, as you guys really need to be on the same page before your baby's born because those first few weeks are going to put enough strain on you both as it is, let alone if things are simmering away like this.
Either that, or write yourself a list of what you like and don't like about how he's treating or talking to you. Ask him to do the same (he may not be willing to) but at the very least it provides a starting point for a big discussion. It could simply be that you're both really nervous at the impending birth and the impact this will have on both of you and your relationship with each other. I've found my husband has had some kooky ideas on how things might be, and has needed some reassurance - I've needed reassurance from him, equally, and we're in a much better place now (good thing too - i'm due in a few weeks!).
So see how you go. Our hormones going nuts never helps either so try to keep calm when you talk to him, or rehearse what you're going to say first - or maybe write it down if this helps. Good luck.Need some advice: Isn't being pregnant supposed to be the most happy and exciting time in your life?
Any man who tells you to take some cement and harden up, is not worth it.. Whether he is your husband friend brother who ever he is..
And as for him putting you down at everything you do, you dont deserve this..
I personally wouldnt be putting up with this.. I wouldnt want my newborn to be around a person like that..
Sure i would let the dad see the baby, but i wouldnt live there..
But at the end of the day it is your choice! and only you can make the choice whether you stay and put up with this BS, or you move on and live a very happy life..
by the way congrats on your baby : )
I feel for you; we have this lovely idea that when we get pregnant we will be glowing and happy, running through fields of flowers without a care in the world - and (for me and it sounds like you too) it was absolutely nothing like that.
I had pre natal depression. I'm wondering if you might have that too. As soon as my husband realised I had pre natal depression, life a got a bit easier. It never went (during pregnancy), but the day my daughter was born, it just slipped away.
It sounds like your husband is struggling to be supportive to you during this time - to be fair, he will have no idea just what a significant difference hormones and anxiety make to your overall mood and life.
Speak to your midwife about your situation - there is help out there, but I found it didn't come to me, I had to find it - with the help of a supportive husband.
It sounds like both you and your husband are having problems dealing with the pregnancy - not that this baby isn't wanted, but that you are both overwhelmed with the changes you see coming, and you with the hormones and moodswings that come with pregnancy.
Perhaps you could sit down with your husband and tell him how you are feeling when you are in a calmer state (I'm 5 months pregnant with my 4th baby, so I know how rare that is!). Perhaps you could compromise on things like him only going to the pub some weekends, eating earlier and taking turns to cook. My family eat at 5pm, and I'm starving by then. I don't know how anyone, especially a pregnant woman could wait until 9pm! I don't think you should be doing yard work now either.
I know that pregnancy, especially first time pregnancy, can be truly awful. All that rubbish about it being happy and exciting puts a heap of pressure on us expectant mothers. Yes, there are moments where you are thrilled about the new arrival, but there are also moments where you are tired, emotional, in pain from your stretched ligaments, constipated, nauseous, scared and b**chy! It's normal. It's also normal to worry about bonding with your baby. Talk your concerns through with your midwife. They've heard it all before, and sometimes it helps if they talk to your husband rather than you, because they can stay calmer. I worried about everything with my first baby, but I would have walked through hot coals for her the minute she was born. Do you know the sex of your baby? For me, that was a huge bonding thing for all of my babies. I could focus on them as a person, and name them before they were born.
All the best with the rest of your pregnancy and sorting things out with your husband. Pregnancy is a time when you need heaps of support, and it doesn't sound like he's been expressing that well to you. Maybe him telling you he wants to do the cooking and lawn mowing is his way of trying to care for you now - but failing horribly in his attempt to express it. Only you know how best to handle things with him, but I can tell you honestly that I love my husband dearly, but when pregnant, I have been known to scream at him, throw things and pack my bags ready to walk out. He wasn't doing anything wrong, but I was so hormonal that even him pouring too much milk on the oatmeal he made me for breakfast caused a fight. How he put up with that I still don't know, but he did, and we've been together for 10 years. Big hugs and lots of luck to you!
For the last 3 weeks, I have become more focused on my husbands relationship with the baby once it is born, and not my relationship with him or the baby, or all three of us. I think about what I will do to support my husband and the baby, working, paying the mortgage, and sometimes even about leaving him to do it on his own. (I hate myself for thinking about the last option, because how much of a bad mum does that make me sound wanting to leave the little baby that isn't even here yet!).
I think about the birth, and the baby being handed to my husband, and me not wanting anything to do with the baby, or rather pushing my husband and the baby away, so they bond together and I don't bond with the baby.
My husband has bought me down so much that I feel I am inadequate in every way. For example, I am accused of never mop the floor or take the garbage out. If I mow the lawn around the clothesline I am accused of doing a half job that he has to go and fix anyway, so why should I bother.
I used to love to cook before I fell pregnant, but he now accuses me of cooking terrible meals. I now hate cooking and he hasstronglyy suggested that he should do the cooking at night. (which would be great, but I am in bed about 9, and he usually finishes preparing dinner between 9-930)
My husband hasaccusedd me of not supporting him enough, but I didn't know I stopped supporting him and he hasn't told me how I should be doing this.
The weekends arrive and he wants to unwind and relax at the pub: it has become a rather boring place for me now, not drinking and my tolerance for ';happy'; drunks is waning.
I know that I have become less tolerant, emotional and scatter brain being pregnant, or a bit of a b*%^h, but I can't seem to get any support from my husband, who tells me I should ';take some cement and harden up';.
To top it all off, I have been overlooked for three promotions at work, I don't have any interests outside of work as I had to give up my passion of wine and love of hockey when I fell pregnant. I don't have many close girlfriends to turn to.
I don't want this to turn into a man bashing thing, even though it kinda sounds like it above, but I am hoping that you may have some strategies for coping with my emotions and pulling my self esteem back together. Maybe some of you have some stories you would like to share?
ThanksNeed some advice: Isn't being pregnant supposed to be the most happy and exciting time in your life?
I had loads of worries about how we'd cope, but if you feel it's really bad you could always try marriage counselling so that you both can talk honestly but away from your home - I do recommend counselling for big stuff like this, as you guys really need to be on the same page before your baby's born because those first few weeks are going to put enough strain on you both as it is, let alone if things are simmering away like this.
Either that, or write yourself a list of what you like and don't like about how he's treating or talking to you. Ask him to do the same (he may not be willing to) but at the very least it provides a starting point for a big discussion. It could simply be that you're both really nervous at the impending birth and the impact this will have on both of you and your relationship with each other. I've found my husband has had some kooky ideas on how things might be, and has needed some reassurance - I've needed reassurance from him, equally, and we're in a much better place now (good thing too - i'm due in a few weeks!).
So see how you go. Our hormones going nuts never helps either so try to keep calm when you talk to him, or rehearse what you're going to say first - or maybe write it down if this helps. Good luck.Need some advice: Isn't being pregnant supposed to be the most happy and exciting time in your life?
Any man who tells you to take some cement and harden up, is not worth it.. Whether he is your husband friend brother who ever he is..
And as for him putting you down at everything you do, you dont deserve this..
I personally wouldnt be putting up with this.. I wouldnt want my newborn to be around a person like that..
Sure i would let the dad see the baby, but i wouldnt live there..
But at the end of the day it is your choice! and only you can make the choice whether you stay and put up with this BS, or you move on and live a very happy life..
by the way congrats on your baby : )
I feel for you; we have this lovely idea that when we get pregnant we will be glowing and happy, running through fields of flowers without a care in the world - and (for me and it sounds like you too) it was absolutely nothing like that.
I had pre natal depression. I'm wondering if you might have that too. As soon as my husband realised I had pre natal depression, life a got a bit easier. It never went (during pregnancy), but the day my daughter was born, it just slipped away.
It sounds like your husband is struggling to be supportive to you during this time - to be fair, he will have no idea just what a significant difference hormones and anxiety make to your overall mood and life.
Speak to your midwife about your situation - there is help out there, but I found it didn't come to me, I had to find it - with the help of a supportive husband.
It sounds like both you and your husband are having problems dealing with the pregnancy - not that this baby isn't wanted, but that you are both overwhelmed with the changes you see coming, and you with the hormones and moodswings that come with pregnancy.
Perhaps you could sit down with your husband and tell him how you are feeling when you are in a calmer state (I'm 5 months pregnant with my 4th baby, so I know how rare that is!). Perhaps you could compromise on things like him only going to the pub some weekends, eating earlier and taking turns to cook. My family eat at 5pm, and I'm starving by then. I don't know how anyone, especially a pregnant woman could wait until 9pm! I don't think you should be doing yard work now either.
I know that pregnancy, especially first time pregnancy, can be truly awful. All that rubbish about it being happy and exciting puts a heap of pressure on us expectant mothers. Yes, there are moments where you are thrilled about the new arrival, but there are also moments where you are tired, emotional, in pain from your stretched ligaments, constipated, nauseous, scared and b**chy! It's normal. It's also normal to worry about bonding with your baby. Talk your concerns through with your midwife. They've heard it all before, and sometimes it helps if they talk to your husband rather than you, because they can stay calmer. I worried about everything with my first baby, but I would have walked through hot coals for her the minute she was born. Do you know the sex of your baby? For me, that was a huge bonding thing for all of my babies. I could focus on them as a person, and name them before they were born.
All the best with the rest of your pregnancy and sorting things out with your husband. Pregnancy is a time when you need heaps of support, and it doesn't sound like he's been expressing that well to you. Maybe him telling you he wants to do the cooking and lawn mowing is his way of trying to care for you now - but failing horribly in his attempt to express it. Only you know how best to handle things with him, but I can tell you honestly that I love my husband dearly, but when pregnant, I have been known to scream at him, throw things and pack my bags ready to walk out. He wasn't doing anything wrong, but I was so hormonal that even him pouring too much milk on the oatmeal he made me for breakfast caused a fight. How he put up with that I still don't know, but he did, and we've been together for 10 years. Big hugs and lots of luck to you!
Has anyone done this with a pleasant outcome-sorry it's a bit long?
I have been married 7 years (in 3 weeks) and I am having some trouble. We are both 28 and no children. My husband and I started dating when we were 16 and got married at 21. We are best friends - we make each other laugh, we like the same music, movies, friends, entertainment...we really have a great time together. So here is my dilemma...I have been feeling the last couple of years like things have fizzled out for us. We still get along great but I feel we are missing somethign.
I went back to college and have a very hectic schedule. I am stressed most of the time and I am starting to feel like I have lost the sense of who I am. When you are with someone this long you are supposed to merge together but I feel I have been absorbed. I don't have any hobbies or interests of my own, I haven't bought a cd or book in who knows how long, not only because I don't know what I like but also because I can't settle on what I want. I am a very indecisive person so the fact that I made the decision to get married at such a young age has me wondering. I love my husband but I feel I have to do this for me. I have never cheated on or lied to him. We are very honest and open about things and have discussed this before. I have not brought up moving out but we know that things are not the way they could be.
I am thinking about moving out for a few months just to get back to the basics, not only of our relationship but myself as well. School has taken its toll on me and my major was kind of pushed onto me (much longer story) so I feel like I let myself down. My grades are suffering, my future is not what I hoped it would be academically or career wise and those things are very important to me. My marriage is too! I don't want to make a mistake by moving out but I feel that this way we will have a chance to miss each other and remember why we fell in love 11 years ago.
So, in this wide world is there anyone out there who has felt this way and what did you do about it? I really think moving out to find myself would be the best thing but I am wondering if anyone else has done it and if moving out put things into perspective? or did it ruin a good thing. I am sure there will be a lot of haters here...you know who you are...so for those who seriously answer I have to say THANK YOU for your advice. Has anyone done this with a pleasant outcome-sorry it's a bit long?
If you started school about the same time you begin to feel this way (2 years ago) then you are still floundering around from one commitment to another without feeling grounded and knowing what to do. Sounds like you have over-extended yourself as well. It just sounds like you need a break from responsibility, not necessarily your husband, per se. You may not have given your husband/marriage the time to grow and come to actually know each other as you should before your schedule over took your commitments to other things. Slow down. You might want to just think about why you were attracted to your husband and what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Really think about it.Has anyone done this with a pleasant outcome-sorry it's a bit long?
dont move out save some money and take a trip by your self get away or both of you take a trip together take a break from the stress and relax and forget everything i think moving out wouldnt really work
I think you need to do what you feel is best in your heart. However, you may not come back to the situation you left. You need to understand that your husband may move on while you find yourself.
Honey you are not alone in this. Many people feel this way. I feel this way off and on. But one thing that helps me is to have ME time. There are days that I set aside for me to do me. I'll leave the house and go to a spa, go workout, to the movies or even Barnes %26amp; Nobles where I just walk around for a few hours. You should try it. Try to remember what makes YOU happy. Good Luck to you!
lots and lots of people have felt what you are feeling; with that said, when you move out, you are moving out, you can't keep one foot in and one foot out, either you are in or you are not........you are at the point in ANY relationship where it feels as if it has fizzled out, that is because you are either done or it is moving into a new deeper more wonderful realm.......hanging in there has it's benefits, but only you know where you are in this; all in or all out
I went back to college and have a very hectic schedule. I am stressed most of the time and I am starting to feel like I have lost the sense of who I am. When you are with someone this long you are supposed to merge together but I feel I have been absorbed. I don't have any hobbies or interests of my own, I haven't bought a cd or book in who knows how long, not only because I don't know what I like but also because I can't settle on what I want. I am a very indecisive person so the fact that I made the decision to get married at such a young age has me wondering. I love my husband but I feel I have to do this for me. I have never cheated on or lied to him. We are very honest and open about things and have discussed this before. I have not brought up moving out but we know that things are not the way they could be.
I am thinking about moving out for a few months just to get back to the basics, not only of our relationship but myself as well. School has taken its toll on me and my major was kind of pushed onto me (much longer story) so I feel like I let myself down. My grades are suffering, my future is not what I hoped it would be academically or career wise and those things are very important to me. My marriage is too! I don't want to make a mistake by moving out but I feel that this way we will have a chance to miss each other and remember why we fell in love 11 years ago.
So, in this wide world is there anyone out there who has felt this way and what did you do about it? I really think moving out to find myself would be the best thing but I am wondering if anyone else has done it and if moving out put things into perspective? or did it ruin a good thing. I am sure there will be a lot of haters here...you know who you are...so for those who seriously answer I have to say THANK YOU for your advice. Has anyone done this with a pleasant outcome-sorry it's a bit long?
If you started school about the same time you begin to feel this way (2 years ago) then you are still floundering around from one commitment to another without feeling grounded and knowing what to do. Sounds like you have over-extended yourself as well. It just sounds like you need a break from responsibility, not necessarily your husband, per se. You may not have given your husband/marriage the time to grow and come to actually know each other as you should before your schedule over took your commitments to other things. Slow down. You might want to just think about why you were attracted to your husband and what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Really think about it.Has anyone done this with a pleasant outcome-sorry it's a bit long?
dont move out save some money and take a trip by your self get away or both of you take a trip together take a break from the stress and relax and forget everything i think moving out wouldnt really work
I think you need to do what you feel is best in your heart. However, you may not come back to the situation you left. You need to understand that your husband may move on while you find yourself.
Honey you are not alone in this. Many people feel this way. I feel this way off and on. But one thing that helps me is to have ME time. There are days that I set aside for me to do me. I'll leave the house and go to a spa, go workout, to the movies or even Barnes %26amp; Nobles where I just walk around for a few hours. You should try it. Try to remember what makes YOU happy. Good Luck to you!
lots and lots of people have felt what you are feeling; with that said, when you move out, you are moving out, you can't keep one foot in and one foot out, either you are in or you are not........you are at the point in ANY relationship where it feels as if it has fizzled out, that is because you are either done or it is moving into a new deeper more wonderful realm.......hanging in there has it's benefits, but only you know where you are in this; all in or all out
Is this the Truth about the Fall of Man, interpreted?
Here is the interpretation of the fall of Man. (KJV / NAS).
According to the Holy bible and starting with Genesis, Ch:3 Versus 1-12.
Gen.3, 1-12
Verse 1:
Now the serpent (evil man) was more crafty (clever) than any beast (human) of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, ';Indeed, has God said, ';You shall not eat (admire) from any tree (people/family) of the garden (earth)?
And the woman said to the serpent (evil man), ';From the fruit (wisdom) of the trees (people/families) of the garden (earth) we may eat (admire);
but from the fruit (wisdom) of the tree (people/family) which is in the middle (control seat) of the garden (earth), God has said, ';You shall not eat (admire) from it or touch (understand) it, lest you die (be away from God).';
And the Serpent (evil man) said to the woman, ';You surely shall not die! (be away from God). For God knows that in the day you eat (admire) from it your eyes (mind) will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.';
When the woman saw that the tree (people/families) was good for food (knowledge), and that it was delight to the eyes (mind), and that the tree (people/families) was desireable to make one wise, she took from it's fruit (wisdom) and ate (understood/believed); and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate (understood/believed).
Then the eyes (mind) of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked (away from God/dead); and they ';sewed fig leaves'; (blaming each other) together and made themselves ';loin coverings'; (made excuses).
And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden (earth) in the cool of the day (noon), and the man and his wife hid (ignored) themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the tree (people/family) of the garden (earth).
Then the Lord God called to the man and said to him, ';Where are you?'; And he said, '; I heard the sound of Thee in the garden (earth), and I was afraid because I was naked (spiritually dead/lost/disobeyed/sinned) so I hid (ignored) myself. (In subconscious Adam ignored himself from the calling of God).
And He said, ';Who told you that you were naked (away from Me(God)/spiritually dead)? Have you eaten (admired) from the tree (people) of whcih I commanded you not to eat (admire/understand).
And the man said, ';The woman whom Thou gavest to be with me, she gave me from the tree (people/family) and I ate (understood/believed).
The end.
So here you are ladies and gentlemen, my spiritual understanding of how it all started off wrong. Wisdom made us knowledgeable but put us away or numbed our senses to hear God. Or should I say spiritually dead.
Peace and Love, all comments are welcomed. What do yo think?Is this the Truth about the Fall of Man, interpreted?
I think that you are very good at adding to/interpreting into what you want to believe. If the trees represented people/families, then after they disobeyed God why did he not simply kill them on the spot and produce another Adam and eve from the families?
When we change the God of the Bible or the Bible to suit our own personal agenda/wants/desires/etc. we have created an idol for ourselves. Tis very dangerous ground.Is this the Truth about the Fall of Man, interpreted?
k. sounds like u may have american muslim influence in ur understanding. if so, look into a hebrew bible dictionary...since the old testament was written in hebrew. sometimes a tree is just a tree. the english language leaves much to be desired. being a former muslim myself trying to read the bible was rough. but once i got access to the resources i needed, it made sense...and now i believe, and it's the most precious reality in the universe. but don't boast in thinking that u got it figured out. the bible also says...'; if a man thinks that he is more than what he is, let him take heed...lest he fall.'; don't rejoice yet in your ';interpretation';. u are in error. peace and love...try ';vine's'; bible dictionary.antivirus downloads div myspace
According to the Holy bible and starting with Genesis, Ch:3 Versus 1-12.
Gen.3, 1-12
Verse 1:
Now the serpent (evil man) was more crafty (clever) than any beast (human) of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, ';Indeed, has God said, ';You shall not eat (admire) from any tree (people/family) of the garden (earth)?
And the woman said to the serpent (evil man), ';From the fruit (wisdom) of the trees (people/families) of the garden (earth) we may eat (admire);
but from the fruit (wisdom) of the tree (people/family) which is in the middle (control seat) of the garden (earth), God has said, ';You shall not eat (admire) from it or touch (understand) it, lest you die (be away from God).';
And the Serpent (evil man) said to the woman, ';You surely shall not die! (be away from God). For God knows that in the day you eat (admire) from it your eyes (mind) will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.';
When the woman saw that the tree (people/families) was good for food (knowledge), and that it was delight to the eyes (mind), and that the tree (people/families) was desireable to make one wise, she took from it's fruit (wisdom) and ate (understood/believed); and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate (understood/believed).
Then the eyes (mind) of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked (away from God/dead); and they ';sewed fig leaves'; (blaming each other) together and made themselves ';loin coverings'; (made excuses).
And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden (earth) in the cool of the day (noon), and the man and his wife hid (ignored) themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the tree (people/family) of the garden (earth).
Then the Lord God called to the man and said to him, ';Where are you?'; And he said, '; I heard the sound of Thee in the garden (earth), and I was afraid because I was naked (spiritually dead/lost/disobeyed/sinned) so I hid (ignored) myself. (In subconscious Adam ignored himself from the calling of God).
And He said, ';Who told you that you were naked (away from Me(God)/spiritually dead)? Have you eaten (admired) from the tree (people) of whcih I commanded you not to eat (admire/understand).
And the man said, ';The woman whom Thou gavest to be with me, she gave me from the tree (people/family) and I ate (understood/believed).
The end.
So here you are ladies and gentlemen, my spiritual understanding of how it all started off wrong. Wisdom made us knowledgeable but put us away or numbed our senses to hear God. Or should I say spiritually dead.
Peace and Love, all comments are welcomed. What do yo think?Is this the Truth about the Fall of Man, interpreted?
I think that you are very good at adding to/interpreting into what you want to believe. If the trees represented people/families, then after they disobeyed God why did he not simply kill them on the spot and produce another Adam and eve from the families?
When we change the God of the Bible or the Bible to suit our own personal agenda/wants/desires/etc. we have created an idol for ourselves. Tis very dangerous ground.Is this the Truth about the Fall of Man, interpreted?
k. sounds like u may have american muslim influence in ur understanding. if so, look into a hebrew bible dictionary...since the old testament was written in hebrew. sometimes a tree is just a tree. the english language leaves much to be desired. being a former muslim myself trying to read the bible was rough. but once i got access to the resources i needed, it made sense...and now i believe, and it's the most precious reality in the universe. but don't boast in thinking that u got it figured out. the bible also says...'; if a man thinks that he is more than what he is, let him take heed...lest he fall.'; don't rejoice yet in your ';interpretation';. u are in error. peace and love...try ';vine's'; bible dictionary.
My brother is trying to convince me that I'm Bipolar.. my husband says i'm not...?
I am a very happy person, I am a optimist. I have a strong personality because I am a total extrovert, I express myself verbally about almost everything to close friends. I've always been very sensitive. The weakness I work on the most is my temper, it's gotten much more mild with age (29 yrs), and rarely comes out anymore since I am aware of it. My brother is driving me nuts telling me he's so super concerned I'm Bipolar. If I am, I don't know why he's so concerned, I have a happy healthy life %26amp; home. My husband %26amp; friends are happy. It's obviously not effecting my life in a bad way. I'm not depressive. My mom takes meds for a mental illness %26amp; he says I have it because of her gene. She doesn't know anything about Bipolar but he told her that being sensitive is part of bipolar.. and now she's convincing me I am because ';I'm the most sensitive person she's ever met.'; Being sensitive doesn't constitute bipolar. I don't want to take meds. My brother says that people who are bipolar don't like the meds because the up's are so fun.. but the downs are bad. He says sometimes I'm so happy he doesn't know what to do with me. That means nothing either. I would love to have these extreme up's he's talking about.. and I don't get the downs.. other then when I lose my temper which is rare and probably primarily due to PMS... but my happiness is consistent. I don't go into elation. I took tests online and came out negative w flying colors. I don't fall into any of these symptoms. Alright so, I met an Academy Award winning movie star the other day (I kid you not)... he said he had a crush on me.. got my # and called me! I told my mom about it in confidence because I was excited but married and didn't know what to do... she jumped to conclusions and told my brother I am now planning on moving to CA to be with this man. That would be an amazing feat on my part if I did this... Gah!! (My hubby knows all about this and thinks it's really cool he called me) BUT... Now my brother is relentless that I'm bipolar... and keeps insulting me... then, because I'm offended by him saying this then he says that my reaction is proof of my mood swings. He brought up one example 6 years ago where I broke up with a boyfriend for another guy and called my brother crying, wailing about my ex... and then the next day I was gleeful about my new boyfriend. I got hit by the love bug. I also remember regretting crying on the phone to my older brother so the next day I overcompensated myself to him so he wouldn't be concerned... because he's REALLY judgmental. He told me it doesn't matter what your excuse for your mood swings, either way they've happened multiple times like this in my life. The only other example he gave me was, one time I drank two bottles of wine alone, I got wasted and crying because my best girlfriend ended our friendship because I told her I was concerned she was abusing drugs to be skinny.. which she was. I called him... balling and of course.. that's a sign of being bipolar? No.. if anything alcoholism. lol... sooo Irritating. It's effecting me and it's making me think i'm crazy... my husband says i'm not bipolar.. My brothers wife is Mary Poppins reincarnated and I am a very strong personality.. so I think he compares me to her.
What do I do? If i'm bipolar it's obviously not effecting my life because i'm happy and so are the people around me. Is there a better test then the 5 that I took online that say i'm not at all bipolar? Am I in denial... How do I get him off my back... nothing seems to work.. he thinks i'm in denial. He also thinks i'm leaving my husband for a movie star because my mom told him she thought I was... this is soooo retarded.
P.S... Marriage advise is not welcome.. I am not leaving my husband. All I want to know is how to get my brother off my back.. because it hurts my feelings. Or tell me a better way to tell if I'm bipolar.My brother is trying to convince me that I'm Bipolar.. my husband says i'm not...?
You are not bipolar. I have no idea why your brother and mom are trying to convince you that you are. I would take what they say with a grain of salt and let it go in one ear and out the other. Since you don't think there is a problem and your husband doesn't think there is a problem, ignore them.
If you are really concerned, talk to your doctor.
A doctor is the only person that can diagnose you with any type of disorder.My brother is trying to convince me that I'm Bipolar.. my husband says i'm not...?
I'm not sure if this site will help.
http://www.bipolar.com/
To me, it don't sound like you have Bipolar.
BE A WOMAN AND STAND YOUR GROUND AND TELL THOSE TWO CLOWNS TO GET REAL U ARE NORMAL
How could someone who had just met you have a crush on you? This sounds pretty weird to me.
Why don't you make an appointment with a Psychiatrist, and go in and ask him to assess the likelihood that you are bi-polar? Then, if he says you are, you deal with that. If he says you aren't, you tell your brother that he doesn't have an MD, that you already trusted his opinion enough to get assessed, and now he needs to drop it.
On a personal note, I am also extremely sensitive/intuitive, but I have only called someone bawling once in the last 10 years. And maybe only one other time in my whole life before that. It does sound like you have some extreme moods, but that doesn't mean it's a problem, necessarily. BUT, I'm not a Doctor. Go see one, and put this to rest once and for all.
Good Luck!
It's too long and I did not read it all. Try breaking your thoughts down into one or two paragraphs next time.
If you have concerns about your mental health, see a psychiatrist or psychotherapist. Arguing with your brother about whether you are bi-polar is worthless.
Also, there is much online about this illness and you can google it for more information.
Most people whom are bipolar have problems in there life because of it. That's why they are on medication to help them. You say you have A happy life. Your brother sounds over bearing. He can't make that kind of diagnoses with out knowing all of your life. He is not even qualified to do such A thing. Sometimes it's hard to see yourself from A different stand point, but your friends and husband can. Trust how they see you. You care about what your brother thinks and says too much. You are your own person. You are in control of your life.
Maybe you should tell him this. If you think i'm so bi-polar then maybe we shouldn't speak to each other anymore. If I am bi-polar you know I'll change my mind. Give him something to think about. What he is doing is just so wrong in so many ways. I really do feel for you.
Remember your life, your rules. If your happy then don't let him drag you down. Be happy. Be yourself.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
I have precisely the personality you describe, and I am bipolar. I'm almost never depressed, I lean toward a constant up. I'm not unhappy with my life, but I don't sleep, for 3 or 4 days at a time. This is intolerable, so I take medication.
If you want a diagnosis, go to a psychiatrist. Or refuse to discuss it with your family. You don't sound bipolar to me, but I'm no classic case either.
Your brother sounds one can short of a six pack.
is he a psychiatrist? if not, his opinion shouldn't matter. if you are concerned make an appt., but if not continue being happy. our society is much too much into diagnosing people.
What do I do? If i'm bipolar it's obviously not effecting my life because i'm happy and so are the people around me. Is there a better test then the 5 that I took online that say i'm not at all bipolar? Am I in denial... How do I get him off my back... nothing seems to work.. he thinks i'm in denial. He also thinks i'm leaving my husband for a movie star because my mom told him she thought I was... this is soooo retarded.
P.S... Marriage advise is not welcome.. I am not leaving my husband. All I want to know is how to get my brother off my back.. because it hurts my feelings. Or tell me a better way to tell if I'm bipolar.My brother is trying to convince me that I'm Bipolar.. my husband says i'm not...?
You are not bipolar. I have no idea why your brother and mom are trying to convince you that you are. I would take what they say with a grain of salt and let it go in one ear and out the other. Since you don't think there is a problem and your husband doesn't think there is a problem, ignore them.
If you are really concerned, talk to your doctor.
A doctor is the only person that can diagnose you with any type of disorder.My brother is trying to convince me that I'm Bipolar.. my husband says i'm not...?
I'm not sure if this site will help.
http://www.bipolar.com/
To me, it don't sound like you have Bipolar.
BE A WOMAN AND STAND YOUR GROUND AND TELL THOSE TWO CLOWNS TO GET REAL U ARE NORMAL
How could someone who had just met you have a crush on you? This sounds pretty weird to me.
Why don't you make an appointment with a Psychiatrist, and go in and ask him to assess the likelihood that you are bi-polar? Then, if he says you are, you deal with that. If he says you aren't, you tell your brother that he doesn't have an MD, that you already trusted his opinion enough to get assessed, and now he needs to drop it.
On a personal note, I am also extremely sensitive/intuitive, but I have only called someone bawling once in the last 10 years. And maybe only one other time in my whole life before that. It does sound like you have some extreme moods, but that doesn't mean it's a problem, necessarily. BUT, I'm not a Doctor. Go see one, and put this to rest once and for all.
Good Luck!
It's too long and I did not read it all. Try breaking your thoughts down into one or two paragraphs next time.
If you have concerns about your mental health, see a psychiatrist or psychotherapist. Arguing with your brother about whether you are bi-polar is worthless.
Also, there is much online about this illness and you can google it for more information.
Most people whom are bipolar have problems in there life because of it. That's why they are on medication to help them. You say you have A happy life. Your brother sounds over bearing. He can't make that kind of diagnoses with out knowing all of your life. He is not even qualified to do such A thing. Sometimes it's hard to see yourself from A different stand point, but your friends and husband can. Trust how they see you. You care about what your brother thinks and says too much. You are your own person. You are in control of your life.
Maybe you should tell him this. If you think i'm so bi-polar then maybe we shouldn't speak to each other anymore. If I am bi-polar you know I'll change my mind. Give him something to think about. What he is doing is just so wrong in so many ways. I really do feel for you.
Remember your life, your rules. If your happy then don't let him drag you down. Be happy. Be yourself.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
I have precisely the personality you describe, and I am bipolar. I'm almost never depressed, I lean toward a constant up. I'm not unhappy with my life, but I don't sleep, for 3 or 4 days at a time. This is intolerable, so I take medication.
If you want a diagnosis, go to a psychiatrist. Or refuse to discuss it with your family. You don't sound bipolar to me, but I'm no classic case either.
Your brother sounds one can short of a six pack.
is he a psychiatrist? if not, his opinion shouldn't matter. if you are concerned make an appt., but if not continue being happy. our society is much too much into diagnosing people.
I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
ok. the thing is:
my best friend married a guy about a year ago.
No one could understand why she did that (neither could I). She met this guy, fell head over heels in love with him and married him right away.
We (her closest friends) knew her first marriage was a failure, but 2 years after she got divorced, she seemed completely over it. She has an excellent job (she earns quite a lot) and has a beautiful, sweet and intelligent 3-year-old daughter from that first marriage.
Then she met this idiot and married him. I mean鈥?I can't understand what's going on with her! I've always known her as a strong and determined woman I admired, but when she married him everything changed. The guy behaves like a dictator who bosses her around and controls every step she makes(he tries to boss and control everyone else as well by the way). Before they got married he immediately demanded her to get rid of the child or he wouldn't marry her. She did it. She gave her ex immediately full custody of the girl and barely saw her again since then because her husband doesn't want her to.
The guy is SO annoying! I think she is the only person in the world who can put up with him at all.
I can't understand why she is with that piece of trash (I am sorry for using such words). The man is ugly as the sin, he's probably the grossest person I've ever met, he stinks (no one can get close to him), doesn't have any education and he's really discussing and when it comes to hygiene he says that no hygiene at all is good because that makes you immune system stronger.
He's SO gross鈥?he is always talking about sex and, looks really discussing and has no manners at all, everywhere even when there are people around. He burps as loud as he can, (I heard him fart a few times as well) and talks about committing suicide all the time!
And and and鈥?lots of other things. He is always making problems and conflicts with everyone. It's the only thing he can do.
My best friend almost picked him up from the streets. When she met him he was miserable, was sick, was always moving from one place to another, was hungry鈥?br>
but I think if she wants to make any charity work, she doesn't have to take such people home with her, nor marry them as well. The guy never worked again. He says that since they are married, she has the obligation to give him money.
I never could understand why she married him! She once told me with a big smile on her face that he is great in bed.
She is been acting cold and distant since she met him. (The guy scares me. He's like a dictator who has to be obeyed at any costs)
Our relationship is not the same anymore. I miss her. I miss our friendship. How can I get her back?I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
first of all, the guy seems like a total jerk! but i think you should sit your friend down and have a serious talk, don't just tell her what all the terrible things you see in him... first ask her what she thinks when she see's him, ask her if she's really truely happy, and ask her if she's gonna miss her daughter.
and after that depending on her responce then explain to her that she really does derserve better, and the right guy is out there... but the man she married isn't.
but if she's truely happy, and she's in total and complete love with him... there's nothing you can do but just hope for the best and pray for her.I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
Sounds like your friend has lost the important things in her life and has given them up.This is not something anyone can understand,and one day she will wonder the same thing.It is a good thing that she gave the child to her ex as no telling what could have happened.You have tried to be a good friend and one day she will need you and your shoulder to cry a mountain of tears
Sounds like a situation I had with my best friend. Unfortunately you just have to wait it out and hope she comes to her senses. My bff didn't dump her kids with her ex, but she didn't say anything when her new husband was verbally abusive to them. Every time I pointed out something horrible about him, she would laugh it off. If you push too hard, then when she does leave him she won't return to being friends with you. She'll resent you. I just had to keep my mouth shut and be as supportive as possible, and when she finally came to her senses, I helped her pack.
Also, sounds like she needs serious therapy. He sounds controlling, maybe even abusive. Nothing you can do. She needs to wake up and get help for herself.
my best friend married a guy about a year ago.
No one could understand why she did that (neither could I). She met this guy, fell head over heels in love with him and married him right away.
We (her closest friends) knew her first marriage was a failure, but 2 years after she got divorced, she seemed completely over it. She has an excellent job (she earns quite a lot) and has a beautiful, sweet and intelligent 3-year-old daughter from that first marriage.
Then she met this idiot and married him. I mean鈥?I can't understand what's going on with her! I've always known her as a strong and determined woman I admired, but when she married him everything changed. The guy behaves like a dictator who bosses her around and controls every step she makes(he tries to boss and control everyone else as well by the way). Before they got married he immediately demanded her to get rid of the child or he wouldn't marry her. She did it. She gave her ex immediately full custody of the girl and barely saw her again since then because her husband doesn't want her to.
The guy is SO annoying! I think she is the only person in the world who can put up with him at all.
I can't understand why she is with that piece of trash (I am sorry for using such words). The man is ugly as the sin, he's probably the grossest person I've ever met, he stinks (no one can get close to him), doesn't have any education and he's really discussing and when it comes to hygiene he says that no hygiene at all is good because that makes you immune system stronger.
He's SO gross鈥?he is always talking about sex and, looks really discussing and has no manners at all, everywhere even when there are people around. He burps as loud as he can, (I heard him fart a few times as well) and talks about committing suicide all the time!
And and and鈥?lots of other things. He is always making problems and conflicts with everyone. It's the only thing he can do.
My best friend almost picked him up from the streets. When she met him he was miserable, was sick, was always moving from one place to another, was hungry鈥?br>
but I think if she wants to make any charity work, she doesn't have to take such people home with her, nor marry them as well. The guy never worked again. He says that since they are married, she has the obligation to give him money.
I never could understand why she married him! She once told me with a big smile on her face that he is great in bed.
She is been acting cold and distant since she met him. (The guy scares me. He's like a dictator who has to be obeyed at any costs)
Our relationship is not the same anymore. I miss her. I miss our friendship. How can I get her back?I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
first of all, the guy seems like a total jerk! but i think you should sit your friend down and have a serious talk, don't just tell her what all the terrible things you see in him... first ask her what she thinks when she see's him, ask her if she's really truely happy, and ask her if she's gonna miss her daughter.
and after that depending on her responce then explain to her that she really does derserve better, and the right guy is out there... but the man she married isn't.
but if she's truely happy, and she's in total and complete love with him... there's nothing you can do but just hope for the best and pray for her.I don't recognize my best friend any more since she got married. I need your help!!?
Sounds like your friend has lost the important things in her life and has given them up.This is not something anyone can understand,and one day she will wonder the same thing.It is a good thing that she gave the child to her ex as no telling what could have happened.You have tried to be a good friend and one day she will need you and your shoulder to cry a mountain of tears
Sounds like a situation I had with my best friend. Unfortunately you just have to wait it out and hope she comes to her senses. My bff didn't dump her kids with her ex, but she didn't say anything when her new husband was verbally abusive to them. Every time I pointed out something horrible about him, she would laugh it off. If you push too hard, then when she does leave him she won't return to being friends with you. She'll resent you. I just had to keep my mouth shut and be as supportive as possible, and when she finally came to her senses, I helped her pack.
Also, sounds like she needs serious therapy. He sounds controlling, maybe even abusive. Nothing you can do. She needs to wake up and get help for herself.
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