I love my husband too much!!?

I love my husband too much, i am pregnant (7 months) and we are together almost all the times, we both work but we come home everyday and do almost everything together, he doesnt seem to mind, he has his off days, sort of moody but always has some love for me, our sex life has diminish and i believe is because of the pregnancy, it tends to be messy instead of enjoyable, he is very very excited to be having a baby, there is not a single detail he has not covered everything he has taken care of.





But there is something missing, there is no lust on his eyes anymore, he doesnt touch me or shows any desire for me, he is not cheating trust me,but i miss that side of him, the way he used to hug me so intense, i miss him and he doesnt understand this thing when i tell him, he says he is right there and he is not going anywhere.





I tried explaining is nothing to do with going somewhere it has to do with how he makes me feel sometimes, true, we have an awesome relationship but i feel there is no intimacy (not sexually i get that part, messy) no romance, no lust, no sparks, ive tried may things, from sex games, to lingerie, to candle light dinner, to soft music, to romantic movies, nothing seems to make him snap out of it!...i love him very much and i know he does too, im just wondering if there is a different level you fall under with your relationship after a while, how can i bring what we had back??? can this start turning into one of those boring marriages that end in divorce??? Please be mature on your answers..Thank you......I love my husband too much!!?
With my first pregnancy my husband acted in the same way. I felt like he had totally lost interest in me. There were hugs and kisses but very little intimacy, it felt like the hugs and kisses were just for show, I felt like they were ';empty';. We had no sex from around 20 weeks. I started freaking out thinking our marriage was in trouble. After the baby was born he confessed to me that he just couldn't look at me when I was pregnant the same way he had before I was pregnant. He said it really freaked him out that there was a baby inside me. He said he felt like anything he did, even hugging me was putting me and the baby in danger. He was very, very protective during my pregnancy, not even letting me walk to the car by myself, he had to hold my hand and open the door for me, like being pregnant made me fragile or something. But after the baby was born things improved, a lot. He went back to being his loving self and had even more appreciation for me and our marriage than ever before. The baby made our bond very, very strong. It got even stronger with our second child. We are in more in love with each other now than the day we married 5 years ago, we have been together since we were kids so we know each other inside and out. We are expecting our third child and it just keeps getting better! He is my soul mate and the only person I will ever love.I love my husband too much!!?
sometimes people stop loving each other...but thats in the extreme cases that result in divorce. you should see a marriage counselor together and see if you can work the problems out. every marriage has its problems. especially those when the husband is gone for 15 months to war...like mine.
While pregnant my husband also acted in this fashion, finally he admitted that he was afraid to hurt the baby, some men just feel that way, nothing to do with you at all. Hang in there, it will get better.
I know what you mean..i find giving my man the cold shoulder and no sex for a while seems to do the trick..make him miss you!


Maybe a little fight will help with the passion..


Play hard to get...seems to work for me.


Good luck and i hope you get that spark back...just think the pregnant womans body is beautiful and you should take advantage of it.


:)
it may be your husband is uncomfortable with sex as he feels he mayhurt the baby which a lot of men go through it could also be your hormones making your overreact. they can make you see things that are not there. try not to worry it sounds as if your husband is right behind you all the way. your lucky a lot of woman don't have that. I am sure that after your baby comes things in the bedroom will improve well after you get the sleepless nights out of the way lol. good luck!!
I think he is just nervous having a baby on the way.


There is alot of responsibility associated with babies, we all know that, but men are just more hesitant to accept that. For them the whole baby transition doesn't start until the baby is born and here on the earth; whereas mothers start the transition while pregnant because they get the first ';one-on-one'; interaction.


I believe that once the baby is born he will be loving again with his new son/daughter and his wonderful wife by his side.


Sure there is alot of stress associated with babies, but you can work it out.


Guys are just confusing. Have you tried talking to him about it?


Do you get alot of alone time? Try going out on a date - just you two. Do something you used to do when you two were younger.
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I went through this with my first baby and I feel for you sweety. BUT let me tell you, a lot of men get nervous having sex with a preg. woman even if they tell you ';nah its not that'; and trust me after you have this baby.....you will see another side of each other that you have never seen - a mother and a father...to a baby that both of you love dearly. That seems to bring you soooo close!





I went through this SAME EXACT THING - reading your post was like reading my past and I do feel for you because being preg. you are so emotional but trust me . . . dont let this get you down right now because things get back to normal - not right away after the baby is born because your exhausted but it will and the relationship that you describe will be able to handle the stress that lies ahead.





It DOES GET BETTER!! You feel and look a lot different and believe it or not you are acting a lot different - the both of you and prob. dont realize it about yourself. Just make sure to stay open with each other about your feelings - but dont stress to much about it b/c then it makes you both kinda uncomfortable. I cant really describe it but it goes away - please believe that. I hope this helps. IF you ever need someone to talk to my email is Carrissa0213@aol.com. I'd love to chat!





Good luck with your relationship and your new baby! Carrie
It will get better! My husband always pulls away when I am pregnant. The sex part is expected...it's just not that easy anymore. He is feeling allot of stress and anxioty. Your life is about to change. Not to mention at this point you are not just his wife you are carring his baby. His perseption of you has temporarily changed. Some guys feel dirty thinking of you that way while you are carring. When you think of sex or intimacy, the last thing you want on your mind is children





It will take a little while after the baby is born, but it will return to normal. However, normal will be different too. Life will change...for the better.
honey, it is just the pregnancy. Went thru the exact same thing with my husband. I felt so lonely but we were always together. He didn't seem to understand what I was trying to say. He didn't hug me anymore. Didn't snuggle in bed. Was afraid to touch me in any way. He was afraid of somehow hurting me or the baby. I had mine in November. He returned to normal affection levels after I recovered. Your marriage won't become dull and boring and end in divorce. I'm positive he has it in his head that you have become extremely fragile. No worries, sugar. It'll be ok.
Sounds to me like you have a great relationship with your husband and he's probably a great guy too. I've felt the same thing from my husband at times in our marriage, not while I was pregnant, but at other times.





For my husband, it just seemed like he had other things on his mind, like he was sorting things out, working on thing, and he didn't want to share. Eventually he seemed to recover but I guess he just needed some time to think things through without talking about them.





Maybe your husband is the same way. Having a baby is such a big deal and he may not be able to talk about how it's affecting him. (for my husband, this happened when he turned 29, seems silly now, but it was such a big deal to him)





Marriage, at least for me, has been the most challenging and rewarding relationship I've ever had. With parents, siblings, love is already there; understanding, compatibility is built in. With your children, its the same, you don't have to ';try'; to love them, they were born to be loved. With friends, you can commit, or not, as much or as little as you wish with very little heartache.





With marriage, you're committed for life to someone ';you'; choose to love, someone who ';chooses'; to love you.





My advice, just let him work through whatever it is he has to work through. Find something else to do, like hang out with some friends, to make it easier for you to deal; and stay availble to him for when (and if) he's ready to talk about what might be on his mind. He may not want to stress you out with his problems while you're pregnant or he may not be able to put into words what's on his mind. Just give him some time and space.
try something really different, I don't know if this will work for you and it may sound very scary at first but it's really not that bad. here it is........swinging. it often brings back fire into a relationship to try something different sexually. I know your pregnant, but thats the reason you can do it, you can't get pregnant more than once at the same time can you?