How slow would your proceed with this gal?

Here is the situation. I am 36 and went on on my second date with a 28 year old gal I met on Match last Friday. We first went out the previous Tuesday for happy hour and before the end of the date she said she was very interested in seeing me again. I walked her to her car and we had a great kiss before leaving. We went out again last Friday night to dinner dessert (I paid for the meal and she picked up ice cream). We held hands on the way from the restaurant to dessert and again from dessert back to her place. Walked her to her door and had another great couple kisses and then I asked her if she would be available to go to the David Gray concert for this Friday.


She got back to me last Sunday in an e-mail ';Hope you had a nice rest of the weekend. I just wanted to let you know I would love to go to the concert with you:) It sounds like fun!'; She chatted a little more about her weekend and then said ';I just wanted to mention a few things real quick. I am on match obviously to find someone to be in a relationship with, but I don't want anything to be too rushed. I would definitely like to take time getting to know you but just wanted you to know how I'm feeling:) Also, just wondering on how long it has been since you've been married? Not to pry if you don't want to share, but it's just natural to think of why you got divorced. I'm not looking for your life story in this response, so please don't take this as super serious. I think its awesome to meet someone that shares so many similar interests and I am looking forward to see what happens:) I hope you have a great night.';





I sent her a quick e-mail with some light chat and brief explanation of my divorce.


';Thanks for being honest with me on what your looking for from Match. I'm looking for pretty much the same thing you are. I have met a few people from Match; most of who I haven't ended up having that strong of connection with. With you there's been a lot stronger connection with interests, etc. I definitely know that I want to get to know you more and I don't want it to be rushed either


Thanks for asking the question about my marriage/divorce etc. It was something I wanted to get into with you (I know you didn't have divorced guys on your Match type) to put you at ease with some things from my past. It's been about 2 years since my divorce was official (a little over 3 years from the final separation). I have taken the steps in order to be in a place where I can date again. I didn't start dating anyone until last fall. Regarding my marriage, it was my ex who decided to leave. There were some things she had been wrestling with prior to us even getting married that she buried deep down and never brought up until about year four. We were separated on and off during the next year and tried to make it work but in the end she wanted to be done It boiled down to her not feeling that she didn't love me the way a wife should love a husband. I did everything in my power to make it work. I have no regrets. I never cheated and was always committed to my marriage. Was I sad to see it end?...yes, but in the end I am in a such a better place. I'm really looking to build a solid, committed relationship with some one who wants to communicate openly and wants to be with me.';





There is some really great chemistry between us. We have exchanged a lot of text messages between us since Sunday and spoke on the phone for over an hour last night. I am surprising her before the concert with dinner at a sushi restaurant she has been dying to try. She was really excited that I have a surprise for her and told me that the next surprise is on her. We both share a love of cooking and she said she can't wait to cook with me sometime.





My question really is how often should I try plan things with her? How much physical contact should I initiate with her (holding hands, kissing)? She is someone I want to develop a solid relationship (ie not just a gal who's pants I want to get into) and don't want to scare off. I think the best plan would be to let her kind of initiate the next few get togethers and the intimacy level. Any thoughts?How slow would your proceed with this gal?
I am impressed. I can really see a connection between you too. Reading her text and reading yours, its like the same person wrote it, in the sense of ';good manners'; with a dash of wisdom on both sides.





Putting myself in her shoes, this is what would keep my interest rising and my passion burning. I would like you to give me just a taste of what you are made up of; kindness, surprises, sensual, respectful and a true gentlemen, without overwhelming me with it. I would want you to keep me hoping and intrigued about our relationship. Women love a dash of mystery in a man and that goes for the man also. What I am trying to disclose here is that you must keep your foot in neutral all the time. Even when you think you are not showing much, show less.





As for intimacy, I mean sexual intimacy, that should be the icing on the cake and I would want (remember, I am putting myself in her shoes, we are playing stage here) that moment to be an unforgettable one. Unexpected for me but wisely planned by you. You sound like a romantic guy, take advantage of this and plan a candle light dinner at your home or hers, yours is better, she will be able to feel your surroundings, your sheets, your towels, get the the idea? Soft music and pick a song of your choice, I particularly love the song ';Lady'; by Lionel Richie, stirs up every living romantic cell in me.





Just one last advise- avoid talking about your past as much as possible and about your ex or exs....each time the subject comes up, give her a long kiss.





I hope I have been able to help you and I wish you luck.