Yes, it's totally possible. Many will tell you it's not, but they talk from insecurity and fear and not open-mindedness and experience.
Think about it, you love your mom and dad, you love your siblings. And just because you love one doesn't mean you love the other less.
Same goes with children. You have a child and you love it. You have a second child, do you love the first one only 1/2 as much? No. You have a third, do you love the first to only 1/3 as much? No. You love them all the same, but differently at the same time because they are different people and have different traits and personalities.
Yet, some people will tell you the same doesn't apply to romantic love, but in reality it does. Everyone at one point in their life falls for someone besides their primary partner. Some act on it, others don't and just repress it and feel guilty. Some act on it through cheating or giving-up one good relationship to experience another. Others who are in good relationships don't throw away that relationship just to experience another.
The fact is that contrary to popular belief, no one person can be everything to you. In fairytales, yes. In real life, no. And to ask them to be is just setting yourself up for disappointment and eventually break-ups or divorce when you become disillusioned with your partner when they don't live-up to the unrealistic expectations that society and yourself have put upon them.
Polyamorists believe that it takes more than one person to make you whole, that no one person can ';complete'; you. And sometimes those relationships that do turn romantic as well as being friends.
The challenge is being able to talk to your spouse/partner about this. Many will become defensive and jealous due to insecurity that they are not ';enough'; for you. What they don't realize is that they provide exactly what you need to fulfill a certain part of your life, and that this other person fulfills other parts that they can't. And that you don't love them any less because you love someone else also; that both of them are on equal ground in your heart and you love them both the same, but differently because they both bring something different to your life.
How do you make it work? Well first both of the other people have to be fully on board with it. Then you have to make sure that both get your attention equally so that neither becomes envious of the other. Also, it helps if both your partners become friends, then most, if not all, of the ';threat'; of the other is eliminated.
There are some great resources on the web about polyamory that you should read before talking to your primary partner about it. Then maybe have them read it also. Then talk openly about it without becoming hurt or angry. That can be hard, but it can be done.
My wife and I have had a sexually, and sometimes emotionally open relationship for over five years, and some really great people have come through our life because of it.Polyamory???? Your thoughts?
Polyamory is a nice concept for some people, and could work too for some people. But as a whole, society is not quite sympathetic for such relationship because human as we are, there are bound to be irritations and jealousy involved, even though there are already prior arrangements. You see, it could become more complicated when children are involved. Now, that's true that you could love two people passionately at the same time, but later on you will be confronted with hard choices. While it is not always sexual pleasures that a person wants, there are times when both partners demand such pleasure, and then the problem arises. Normally, a relationship between man and woman is exclusive, and it is very, very complicated for a three way relationships. Especially when it comes to sex. But other people could manage it, and it's good for them. This is not from a moral viewpoint, but only in terms of practicality and emotional efforts. Too much time and too much pleasures could sometimes warp one's thinking. I do not judge you. God bless you.
Good luck to you.
Yes, yes it is.
You make it work by being involved with other like minded individuals.
Polyamory is not cheating, it is not sneaking, it is multiple consenting adults involved in a relationship filled with honesty and open communication to all parties in it.
You make it work with patience, honesty, and communication.
This rather depends on if you intend to persue this with your husbands blessing. If it happens how will you share your times?
You cant spend a day with your boyfriend without your Husband losing out, unless your thinking of a 3some?
How does it then work if your Husband wants to have sex with another woman?
all over the world in most cultures its 1 to 1.
In places it isnt its 1 man to many women.
I think in those cultures the women are generally not in positions of power.
There are probably lots of reasons Polyamory does not work.
One is What if your husbands GFs BF has a GF who gives him HIV and it gets passed along the chain to you?
Im more of a monogamy type of person but if someone is young and still trying to figure out what they like in a partner I don't see a problem with polyamory or just dating around.
i think its possible. i don't particularly like the idea, but if your honest with both partners about it and your husband's fine with it go ahead and have fun.
I'm sure it's ';possible'; 4 some - ';make it work'; would require much consideration !
I don't think there's a limit on the amount of love in any human heart nor on the number of ppl you can share it with.
Yes - very possible and can be tons of fun in bed too
i have never tried it...
but i do think it's possible..
and if it's to work out all parties must agreed....
Is that what they call it now?
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