Is it possible to forgive a friend who slept with your boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife?

Fortunately, this has never happened to me, and hopefully it never does. I guess I'm asking this question for a women vs. men viewpoint on forgiveness when it comes to this matter.





I predict that men will be more forgiving than women just because I know how catty and jealous women are towards one another by nature and men seem to brush it off easier. I could be wrong. I don't know why we do some of the things we do as women, and I don't condone getting it on with other people's boyfriends, but mistakes do happen and everybody has feelings, right or wrong? What do you think?





I mean at the end of the day, do you feel that it is about the intentions of a person, that makes it easier to forgive? Or is the action just automatically unforgivable, and is it the worse thing you can do as a woman? I've talked to people who have cheated and have been cheated on, but I don't often hear, ';Yeah, I was trying to sabotage their relationship';. It was either because there was too much alcohol involved, because someone had a rough childhood and grew up to be promiscuous and angry. It's always something, but rarely is it ';I wanted to ruin their relationship';. They just want to satisfy their own feelings like everyone else in the world. Also how do you feel about people falling in love with unavailable men/women? Are those people just supposed to turn their feelings off when the husband/wife reconcile? Lots of different questions, but answer what you can. Thanks!Is it possible to forgive a friend who slept with your boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife?
yes. it takes some time, but it's possible.Is it possible to forgive a friend who slept with your boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife?
There is no set, simple answer that fits all people.


Men and women are different in significant ways, as well as similar in many ways.


People are different. So we all can approach the challenge of forgiveness in different ways, with different character and personal inner resources. Whether or not you believe in God and feel, hence, obligated to forgive, would be a factor. How yur life turns out, over time, can factor in too. There are many possibililties.





Is it possible to forgive. Yes, but difficult.





';Also how do you feel about people falling in love with unavailable men/women? '; It's foolish, but happens often. Usually we choose who to fall in love or whether or not to let it go that far.





';Are those people just supposed to turn their feelings off when the husband/wife reconcile?'; No. But if ';those people'; are going to stay in a relationship with the offending party, then it is a good idea to work on forgiving, but I think it rarely happens. The resentment seems to surface later.





';They just want to satisfy their own feelings like everyone else in the world.'; Yes, true, but not a justification, ever. A serial killer wants to satisfy his desire. This is why there are morals and ethics--we can all go around satifying all our feelings and as much as we would like to.





but I don't often hear, ';Yeah, I was trying to sabotage their relationship';. Probably because most people do not understand (or are honest enough to acknowledge) their true motivations.
Yeah, it's possible to forgive but never to forget. If it ever did happen to you, I strongly suggest ditching BOTH of them and moving on!
yes that the thing to do these day everybody is doing it