How far should you let racism affect your life?

My husband %26amp; I want a large family. We want to have 2/3 kids biologicly %26amp; adopt 2/3. I was raised to not see the color of someones skin. My husband was raised to actually believe that black people ';are generaly alright but shouldn't be allowed to mix with white.'; I'm glad to say he doesn't believe in this although thats how his parents are. Now when I look online at adoptable children, the majority of them are black. One girl in particular I just fell in love with right away %26amp; considered adopting her, then I realized how his parents would react %26amp; how where we live theres maybe a 4% black population %26amp; how other's backwards attitudes might affect not only us but the child. Now I can handle rascist remarks %26amp; would be ready to stand up for my child but I worry about the child %26amp; if it would be a negative affect on her. I would love her %26amp; make a good mother for her but is that enough in todays society? Everyone says racism's a thing of the past but is it really? Tell me what your opinion is.How far should you let racism affect your life?
You have a great heart, and I think what you want to do is awesome, there are so many children out there in need of some affection.


Racism is still out there, I think it will never stop, just go to other sections on Yahoo Answers and you will see. I went once and never went back, what people had to say what just so disturbing.


This is a hard subject, I wish I could tell you how the child would feel. She might grow up to let it affect her, or she might flip all that around and it will make her stronger, I guess it all depends on the people supporting her. You sound like a very nice person, that would do whatever it takes to make that child feel good about herself.


You rank high in my book, you have a lot to give, and want to share it, you have a big heart, and I think that's all that matters, as long as you have your husbands support, I don't think anything else should matter.


I wish you the best of luck with your decision, which ever one it turns out to be, I know you and your family will succeed at what ever you set your minds too.


God bless you all!How far should you let racism affect your life?
I think you shouldn't even have children with a situation where their father would knowlingly be a racist. Especially not bring in a black child, are you cruel or what?
This is so hard. My ex-husband was adopted, and certainly, he had issues


What will happen to the little girl if you do not adopt her? Personally, I believe that if possible, races should adopt races. But if there are too many children, why should the child suffer even more.


I would adopt her and leave his parents to their prejudices. And society, too.


But the person you really need on your side, is your husband.
Do not let racism affect your life or the life of any children you have, biologically or not. If his side of the family won't accept their grand children, then it is their loss. Just give your kids all the love they need and they will grow up knowing what is right and what is wrong. It will teach them that not everyone is as good as you and your husband but not to be like them.
i'm three month pregnant with my own baby and i know how you feel as i'm white yet my boyfriends black but his parents are racist yet he doesn't let this affect his opinion and i know for a fact he is not racist. i was always brought up to believe it's whats inside that counts no matter wat colour u r on the outside and whilst there is still a lot of racism about you'd be surprised to find how many people are very accepting about the fact that more and more people are involved in interracial relationships whether it's husband and wife or mother and child. all i can say is if you want to adopt then do it don't let anyone elses opinion negative or otherwise stand in the way ! best of luck
Personally, I don't allow racism to enter my life, nor do I allow the people who believe in any form of it to be in my life.





You said you fell in love with this child; is this the child your husband also wants to adopt? If so, and you are concerned about your logistics, then pack up and move if you feel it would be best for your future family.





One thing I would *not* do is stay where you are, around a ';family'; that would not embrace and love a lovely little child that was brought into your home.
i think it should be in the past but i it will always be here and thats sad i really think that racism is like a lack of education
doesnt matter wut ur in-laws think if u really luv this child and ur husband have no problem with this who gives a hoot about ur n-laws they cant do anything to child ALL they can do is try to change ur husbands mind and u have to c that they dont and that he takes ur side ur in-laws shouldnt b even in this if u and ur husband think its good do it it will b good for everybody and u will not feel guilty about anything