My husband believes in tough love!?

I am bulimic since forever. I told my husband as we were dating, now we are married and we have a great marriage. My husband is a great man and work very hard. We don't have kids, but we'll like to have just one in the very future.





The other night I had a huge urge to vomit so bad after dinner, he realized and stood by the bathroom door preventing me from getting into the bathroom. He begun to calm me down by talking to me out of not going to the bathroom and vomit what we just had over dinner.





My husband is a police officer, he is good at talking people out of bad situations.





That night, my husband got me into bed and calm me down as I cried and cried. I told him that it was bothering me inside and he, in a calm tone of voice said: ';It hurts because it need to be expressed it out and maybe with a help of a therapist it can help you or help me to help you and added: Something is bothering you inside and we need to deal with it. He continue touching my hair softly until I fall asleep.





In the morning, as we were having breakfast, he asked me how I was feeling and stated that it was time for to start seeking a therapist, I ask him if I agree to treatment if he could come with me and he said ';Of course I'll be there by your side all the step of the way.'; He also assured me that he may not be able to agree in everything I wanted, implying throwing up, but he will give me tough love if that is necessary for me to overcome my eating disorder. I think that he done yesterday by not letting me approach the bathroom and redirect me to our bed instead. I feel that my husband gets tough with me when I want to vomit or refuse to talk about the bulimia ordeal, he ask questions like: what is bothering you right now? Why are you wanting to throw up? He assures himself that it鈥檚 learn behavior that can be unlearned with therapy of course.





I like having my husband aware that I suffer from bulimia, because he is a great deal of help as is. But I'll be mad at my husband if it comes down to someday to make the decision to have me hook up to an IV and he says yes to the doctor, meaning he approves for the doctor to inject me an IV, what do you guys think?!





Thanks for letting me express my thoughts.My husband believes in tough love!?
I think you are blessed to have such a caring wonderful husband. Get the therapy you so desperately need before you end up dead. Your husband loves you and if he approves and IV for you it's because you need it. Count your blessings you have such a supportive husband.My husband believes in tough love!?
I think bulimics need to be treated long before they consider getting pregnant. Your husband can't save you from yourself. You need treatment and help. Period.
how many times are you going to ask this question?











great husband, good luck with your sickness.
I agree, this hubby of yours is a real catch. Do him (and yourself) a favor and get yourself some help - ASAP.
No one can plug you against your will on an IV if you're conscious and aware.





If you are unconscious or are suffering from a mental illness caused by your bulimia, as often it will happen, then yes he can force on you any treatments he sees fit.





Just don't let it get to that point.
I think your a luck lady to have such a caring husband. Do what he asks you to do so you can get better. Don't be mad at him for doing something that is in your best interest. You have to get better before you get pregnant, you don't want to harm the baby. Good luck!
Wow. He sounds like a really good man who loves you. Sometimes we need that type of person who is tough on us to get us through our worst times. He may not always agree with what you do and you may not agree with his tactics for helping you, but in the end you both love each other and want the best for each other. Let him help you, I think that seeing a therapist is a great idea. Good Luck!
Your man really loves you. He loves you enough to not let you hurt yourself by throwing up - even though you wanted to throw up. THAT IS LOVE. I don't believe that it will come down to him having them override your opinions and wants by giving you injections, but I don't know either of you personally and cannot attest to that.





I'm sure he just wants the best for you - which is for you to get over your bulimia. He loves you and he wants you to be healthy. When you're bulimic, you're not healthy.





Perhaps you can both go to therapy and together beat this disease. I hope you do, because you both should have a wonderful and long life together. Bulimia can and will shorten your life. HE wants you to be with him forever - or as l long as you both can. This means - TAKE BETTER CARE OF YOURSELF!





You can become closer by beating this together. I hope you do and have a very long and happy life together.





I quit smoking so I would live longer - my husband began to eat better. Compromise, communication, and love can work to make a marriage great.
I am the husband of the lady who typed this post and I want her to know...





';Sweety, I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH that I am not willing to see you making the wrong choices for yourself. You are entitle to a lot of things on this earth, but you are not entitle to vomit every time you suppress your feelings and decided to let them out in such way. I know you are hurt, but this is not the way to deal with your anger. I'll keep standing at the bathroom door if I have to and be tough to you whenever you deny being bulimic or change the subject when I begin asking you tough questions that has to do with your eating or the vomiting part. At times, I notice that you absolutely hated whenever I ask directed questions such as ';what are you feeling right now?'; or ';what is making you angry at this very moment that is pushing you to go and vomit?'; I perceive you getting defensive or ironically laugh or gently try to push me out of the way and it make you even more angry that I am not moving out, that I am not giving up on you as I continue asking questions until you let it out. I want to show you that there are other ways to vent your feelings.





Remember the other afternoon, after lunch, I ask you to lay down on the couch, because I knew that the desire was coming up. You did lay down, I sat by you and few minutes later what happened? You started to want to get up to go to the bathroom, I GENTLY hold you down, and in a SOFT AND CALM TONE OF VOICE I said ';relax, calm down, you are okay'; and added ';what are you feeling?, (name) let it out, its okay'; You kept shouting, and remember what you shout out? ';I HATE YOU!'; I want you to know that that is okay, because in my heart that sentence translates as ';I NEED YOUR HELP!';





I want you to know that when I married you and said ';I DO'; I MEANT IT! for better or for worse, in sickness or in health, here I am!





To answer the last part of your posting. If someday, come down that the doctor want you to have an IV in your arm, I will say yes, implying that, I will approve upon doctor's orders to have you hook up to an IV, even if you get angry and shout your anger at loud! And I will do all these ';tough love'; because I LOVE YOU!';





Your other half