Why does my ex husband do this?

My exhusband and I divorced last year. We kept seeing each other off and on but also tried dating other people. I stayed in love with him and was very hopeful that we could work it out but his heart just wasnt there. We were married for 4 years, had a baby girl and financial problems set in making us fall out of love and become very bitter toward each other. We always were fighting and he never was home. He finaly just told me he wanted a divorce. In his mind, he thinks he had no part in anything that I just didnt have respect for him. I own my mistakes and I begged to try to work it out even after the divorce was final.He is a very depressed person and really doesnt know what he wants out of life. Well now he has this young 21 year old girlfriend. We are only 28 but I got very jealous and hurt when I found out he was with her and made the mistake of telling him I was devistated he was with her. She is so unattractive ( And yes, I know its not all about looks) but he still texts me and asks things like '; how are you? I dont want you to be sad cause your the mother of my child.'; and ';I worry about you a lot'; and he reasures me he wont have the new girl around our daughter for a while. Its like he wants to string me along but at the same time Im wondering if he really is just confused and is using this young girl to fill a void of his own depression. Why does he continue to text me and make sure Im ok? Ive begged to work things out and he says if we are meant to be together again then one day it will happen that he just needs to be with someone else for a while and try something differant. My biggest mistake through all of this was that I kept sleeping with him knowing he was just using me. Im just so sad and I dont know how to make the pain and jealousy just disapear. You cant just snap your fingers and it be gone. How do I try to start making it better?Why does my ex husband do this?
He is not stringing you along, and you are doing yourself a serious disservice by telling yourself he is. You are the mother of his child and he wants to know you're OK - that's it. Stop trying to read things into it. He is with the woman he's with because he wants to be with her. You are divorced - no other reason matters. Who he dates is well and truly none of your business, as long as he keeps up good boundaries for your child in that matter. You're divorced - act like it!Why does my ex husband do this?
your the mother of his kid. he will be in your life until she is 18 and he really doesn't want you to hurt but it really sounds like it's over.


the only cure is time and it will take a while.
What a crock. You know he's got another woman and you let him treat you emotionally. STOP. Pay attention to his actions, not his high school texts.
just admit it its over and go on with your life .


try changing your location maybe you could move where you don;t see him often
i know what everyone says even my mum when she had finished her divorce but it helps because it did help my brother. Canceling
You need to move on by doing things like going out with friends, treat yourself to a make-over if you can afford it, get involved with something to occupy your time, whether a bowling league, simply taking your daughter to do things,or even get involved in activities in a church if you attend one. you have to make sure that you don't get involved with someone else just to fill a void in your life but build up you confidence in yourself first, move on, and you will find someone else more interested in you than some young chick!!
Just do what you gotta do girl be strong for the baby and let him have what he wants. Someone who is this way will never change. It is a hard lesson to learn but for your sake and your child's you must. I wish you well and hope you find someone who deserves you.
I think his phone calls are nothing more than what a friend would do. He probably feels guilty because he asked for the divorce, because you told him how devastating it was to you knowing his was with this other person and because you begged him him to work things out. I'm not saying you were wrong in staying those things but it makes it understandable for him to keep checking in with you to be sure you're all right.You aren't suicidal, I hope. Committing suicide is cowardly and selfish. You would be leaving behind a 4 year old with no mother and condemning her to a life wondering why her mother chose to leave her. You shouldn't be suffering this way. I suggest you go to a therapist for help in getting your life back to normal. It wouldn't be a bad idea to see a psychiatrist to get some meds for depression. I know if you could stop feeling this way on your own you would do it, you need help. You should also look for a support group for divorced women. You owe it to your daughter to pursue every avenue. Your sadness and hurt are affecting her too.