I want my good husband back?

my husband and i are married for five years. i met him on my 18th birthday. he pursued me for 6 months going to my house every other day just to see me and get to know me (remembering those happy years brings tears to my eyes) he was perfect for me. shy, funny, smart and caring. after that six months we started dating and a year later he proposed. we both cried our eyes when he proposed. and the day on our wedding we also cried. we were so happy. the first two years were wonderful. we rented a house and everyday we spent time with each other we made love 3 to 4 times a day. we were sexually drawn to each other. lol and third and forth year became hard and rocky but we made it through. sex life gone down to 3 to 4 times a week. lol this fifth year just feels like everything is going down the drain. again sex life gone to 3 to 4 times a month. could be the reason why. i don't know. lol every thing is changing. were both changing. we stop talking to one another and spending time and our love making is completely disappearing. we have toddler, i don't believe our one year old is the reason for all this changes. everything was already changing before he was born. we both love him very much. i don't thinks its because he doesn't find me attractive, because i think im pretty and i haven't changed much. i want to make things work. but it feel impossible. its hard enough just being in the same room with him. i try to be nice. let him go out with family or friends and not *****. make his food and take care of his son. what else does a man want? plus, he gives me hint when his at home to just leave him alone, give him some space, so i did. i left him alone for week. no nagging or asking him help around the house nor for his baby. but after the week or so was done. i was so upset and angry with him. how long did he expect me to just leave him alone. he his not single and he has responsibilities, im i right or wrong? ah! men, there so hard to live with!!! lol i simply want our spark back. if i need to be the one that need starts changing i would. please help. tell me how your relationship with your husband or wife good or bad. how do you make your spouse/lover/gf or bf fall for you again and again. i don't want 5 years of my life just thrown away. i know we can have our wonderful relationship back, we just don't have the right ingredients. marriage counselor is out of the question. i don't think we can afford it. thanks everyone!!!I want my good husband back?
You may not know this, but your parents went through the same thing, and every couple does. After awhile, even the hottest flaming romance turns into friendship, which is why it's best that every romance have friendship to back it up. If your relationship has been more about great sex than the ability to laugh with one another, it probably won't survive the transition. Passion waxes and wanes, but if he loved you, he still loves you. He may be depressed or afraid about something (the economy, his job, family, friends or other stressors). You need to both openly discuss how you're feeling, but you need to do it in a non-confrontational way. If you go into a ';discussion'; accusatory, he'll put up a wall and either fight or shut down. Once you've been honest with him, maybe he'll do the same for you and you can find out why he's being distant and if it's something that can't be fixed or whether it's something you just need to sit tight and wait out.