Ques. for Indians: What would you feel if your newly wedded wife asks for time before having intercourse?

Hi.


Iam going to get married in a month.


Mine is an arranged marriage.


So me and my fiance are complete strangers.


I dont wish to have intercourse with him on the first night.


My idea of making love is to first be friends, then fall in love, then comes the intercourse.


So I guess it will take a period of atleast a month after marriage.


So Iam planning to tell my thought to my husband after marriage.


A friend of mine told that Indian guys would never be broad minded.


She says the guy will misunderstand me that Iam postponing it coz I dont like him or I have some problem or I might have had some affair before marriage.


If you are a girl reading this question, please tell me if Iam right.


If you are a guy reading this question, please tell me how a guy's reaction would be.Ques. for Indians: What would you feel if your newly wedded wife asks for time before having intercourse?
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Why get married? Why not first be friends, then fall in love, then get married THEN have intercourse?





See if you are friends you can tell if you get along and have the same likes and dislikes. Share wonderful moments together before marriage. Become best friends. Then after you marry you have intercourse and now have a child. If you have intercourse before you marry well....you will be an unwed pregnant woman and the family won't want that.





So why not be smart and do I as suggested ^Ques. for Indians: What would you feel if your newly wedded wife asks for time before having intercourse?
If he is an American Indian he will be more likely to give you your waiting period withing much hesitation, however, if he was born and raised in India there may be an issue. He most likely will not understand that you want to wait for good reasons and will think you'rre hiding something from him and will be upset. Indian men are taught to always honor their wives so I'm sure you'll get past this bump. Just explain it to him as well as you can and he may understand.
Not being in an arranged marriage (but being the product of what was arranged marriages up until my grandparents generation) I think you are being reasonable. Husband or not, he is a stranger. It is not easy to have a conversation with a stranger much less intercourse.





I hope he is a caring man and understands your request to get to know one another first.
I'm not Indian and I don't much like arranged marriages, but I definitely think you should be allowed to do things in your own time and not be forced into something you're not ready for. Just make sure he understands it doesn't mean you don't like him, but that you just need more time to grow comfortable with him.
Hi,


Well I think if you let your husband know your feeling the first night it will make everything go really smooth. Indian guys are human too and have feelings don't worry you'll be fine just remember don't just go to according to your plan without sharing your feeling first otherwise I think your friend is right he will think something is wrong. In our cultures it's believed that Intercourse is the best gift that wife can give her husband on wedding night. But moving abroad and seeing so many cultures around us has given us a different picture of relationship and marriage. There's old saying anything cooked on a slow fire will take some time but it will taste so good at the end. just don't take any stress over this enjoy the wedding it only happens once.





Gud luck.